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chocolate cake

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mrsswede · 10/11/2011 20:10

Is anyone else completely bored with their dh? When yours comes home from work does he have a conversation with you? When I asked for a chat about his day the only thing he could muster was the fact that he had a peice of chocolate cake at lunch. I am more than exasperated and feel fed up with jollying him along.

So am i a complete bitch or is the least a wife can expect from her husband is a decent adult conversation after having the dc's from 6am to 6pm. Is this what marriage is supposed to be? Tell me about yours

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Kayano · 10/11/2011 20:22

Maybe having worked all day he wants to be asked about something other than his day? Iyswim?

Me an DH work in same place but diff departments and talk about anything OTHER than our workday at home

Kayano · 10/11/2011 20:24

I would go in with 'guess what I heard/ saw/ read'

If he just grunts or
Hardly speaks all the time I would be very frustrated

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mrsswede · 10/11/2011 20:35

The thing is that usually i am the bubbly one who chit chats the whole time but gets little or no reaction but i have got to the stage where i feel drained and it feels like hard work. Surely, a marriage/relationship is a two way thing. If he was an aquaintance of mine I would probably give up.

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heleninahandcart · 10/11/2011 20:49

Have you tried giving him a bit of space when he first gets home? He may be wanting a bit of peace after work. He should at least make an effort at some point though.

I actually lived with an uncommunicative man, in the end I wondered what the point of him was and couldn't think of anything. That's why he's an ex

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mrsswede · 10/11/2011 20:56

I did give him some space and after we had all eaten we sat down and i said it would be really nice if he tried to have a conversation and how was his day. He said he couldn't think of anything to say. The trouble is it is soooooo frustrating and unlikely to change, I do not enjoy his company much -he depresses me -there i said it.

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heleninahandcart · 10/11/2011 21:12

MrsSwede you could have been me writing this years ago. In the end I felt like I didn't exist. When I say no communication I mean absolutely nothing from him except for the occasional put down. In the end I felt invisible. Yes, and depressed.

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