I use "OW" lightly as it was the very beginning of our relationship, I forgave him and got over it, and he stopped contact with her fully. They texted/emailed a lot (this is before we lived together, he was in contact with her before he met me), but only met up once (shes at the other end of the country), and that was innocent (so I've been told, but I forgave him sleeping with her anyway, even though he still wont admit it)
So years down the line and we're married with one DC and one on the way, and she sends me a message via the evil that is facebook the other day, saying she wanted to let bygones be bygones. So I agreed that there was no reason why they couldnt be friends.
This was about a month ago and now for some reason today its making me feel uncomfortable. I checked his FB, nothing suspicious other than her saying her BF isnt aware of their "history". They have messaged each other, but only friendly chat, nothing odd. I've checked his history too today, and his phone recently (he is very open with everything, which he wasnt when they were in contact before).
I'm quite sure there is nothing going on, I'm very open (perhaps too much so!) to finding a problem, but I just feel so uneasy. Is it just cause I'm pregnant do you think?
So I asked him if he would be willing to stop contact again. Not told, asked. He said I was being silly and there was nothing going on.