Affairs.... anyone?

[tiredpandabear]

Has anyone had an affair and left their partners for their lovers? What was the outcome? Did it work out? If the affair was found out, how long did it take to get the relationship back on track?

I left my boyfriend (of 8 years ) . My 'Affair partner' did not leave his wife.(surprise,surprise!) I was dumped and am now ignored and it's all my own fault! It happened a year ago and it still hurts. But, even though, I feel used, I think it was the noble thing for my MM to do.

I had an affair - I left my 1st husband and ended up having an 11 year relationship with my 'affair partner' - we got married in 2004 and were married for just under 7 years. I left him earlier this year as, during our relationship/marriage he had an affair with his ex-wife and also another woman. he recently started to make contact with another woman and when I found this out I realised that he was never going to change - we have 3 kids (1 from my 1st marriage) and they and i deserve better than how he was treating us. We sold our home and we are now both living in seperate rented accommodation and he is now realising the mistake that he made. I was completely faithful to him for the whole 11 relationship - but some people just cannot remain faithful.

Sometimes affairs work out - and sometimes they don't. I would never, now, get involved with a married man again

I met my DH while I was in the early stages of divorce . He was also going through the same . My ex-h was fully aware that our marriage was over before I met DH . We became each other's support and it went from there . 3 years on and we are married but yes, technically it was an affair at the start . I live near my ex-h and have dinner with him and my daughter every week . My DH does diy jobs for him and we celebrate Christmas etc with my parents , siblings , DH and ex-h all together . Our kids have coped well and are thriving , thank goodness. It was tough and painful and messy and of course I still have guilt and regret . Very happy now with DH who is wonderful and I feel very very lucky .