When I was younger I was told how important it is to marry someone from a similar background to yourself, as you will understand each other etc etc. I didn't understand the truth in this. My dp and I come from very different backgrounds. It didn't appear to be a problem but now after the birth of our ds it is more so. We didn't use to have much contact with his family, I didn't know them, or even meet them at all, but now we are. The thing is, I can't stand his mother. I haven't told dp this obviously, as it would hurt him, but I find it hard to even have a conversation with her. She is loud, brash, ignorant, judgemental and a gossip. I feel anxious about having to spend time with her and that we have to be in each other's lives. I am embarrased to be with her in public because she is incapable of talking, she has to shout at everyone and be the centre of attention, gossiping about people, and now dread spending time with her and big family events that would include the two sides of the family. We are supposed to be getting married, but now I am just dreading the wedding. I also find it really hard spending time with her with my ds, as she grabs at him and talks so loud right in his little face and he starts crying. Has anyone had any similar experiences/advice?