4 any1 else who feels like a nag...

[jimmijam]

I feel like i wouldnt b if i had no reason 2b. Dh see's it as another mood swing & ignores it

thing is, there r some things that have always beem the same others more recent

dh does no housework (im now on maternity leave but even wen still working & heavily pregnant he did nothing), 4 the last few months he wont even put our 2 oldest dcs 2 bed just tells them 2 go & read themselves a story- so i have 2 put them 2 bed properly anyway. A few days ago he asked me 2 express milk so je can bond with lo. But hes made no effort 2 get 2 know lo in any other way.
Years ago i started trying 2 get dh 2 eat better. Recently found out cholesterol off the scale (he ignored me), i still cant get him 2 excercise, along with other conditions he's likely 2 have a hert ck or stroke if he carries on which upsets me.
He now uses his health problems as an excuse despite the fact theyre now being dealt with

he doesnt listen anymore- as in vwont even pretend, doesnt even go in one ear mevermind out the other

je'd rather do extra shifts at work than have family time

iv told him many times over the years how peed off i am at certain things- including the above but nothings chsnged

i must b expecting 2 much of him
nothings ever going to change

years ago i yold him if he ever loed 2 me again id divorce him. Hes constantly lied & broken promises since

we do love each other
he is a good man really

just REALLY pees me off!!

(sorry about tupos, on mu phone with teeny buttons & its also v. Slow)

Of course he doesn't change, doesn't stop lying and doesn't do anything around the house - he's got no reason to. Sure, you give ultimatums and moan, but you carry on anyway, just the same. No point telling him you'll divorce him if you catch him lying again, when you don't actually follow through and he knows you won't.

He may love you, but he hasn't a ha'penny of respect for you.

It's just as buzz says. He has no reason to amend his ways because you've always let him get away with disrespecting you and your dc and in saying that we do love each other and he is a good man really, it's clear that you have no desire to bring about any changes.

I suggest that, if you haven't done so already, you insure his life for a hefty sum so that you won't have to struggle financially when the inevitable happens.

Thanku both. Mt intention was 2 start this thread 4 ppl 2 get things off their chests, wasnt expecting this

your right, he has no reason 2 do anything.

This is gunna sound childish, which i suppose it is really. Back in, around june ish time, i stopped doing his ironing. We now have seperate wash baskets. I got so peed off with him never even sorting out the washing. But guess wot..his basket is ilways full to overflowing i have 2 stuff clothes in. He wears a lot of clothes without ironing them if he can.

His present 2 me 4 our anniversary? A lie in! (which he has every days wen hes not on an early shift @ work). & guess wot? A week has passed & i still havent had my lie in!

Also think i read him wrong. For example my present 2 him were sone framed family photos which i thought he loved wen he opened them. Hes hidden them begined the tv where all u can c is the top of the frames.

Wen we started seeing each other years ago he even became a blood donor 2 impress me!! Once we were properly 2gether that was it. Never given blood since. Not even got me a bunch of flowers.

It really doesnt feel like it, but reading this is any1 else thinking it sounds like this marriage has died?
Its a pretty boring relationship & mundane life

mmmm

If you feel like a nag, it's probably because your husband doesn't listen to you or respect you.

Sorry :(

(Also, not sure if you're new, but text speak is generally frowned upon here :))

Thanks bertie im only new 2 the relationship threads. I have a slow phone which makes it hard 2 c wot ive typed & 2 sxroll back up 2 refer 2 other threads & it has stupidly tiny buttons (its a touch phone tho & i have seen some phones with smaller actual vuttons 2b fair) hence all the typos & also tge txt speak (going 4 speed). Sorry. I hope it doesnt offend any1. @ some point u will get around 2 buying a new phine (on pay monthly, need 2 find out wot needs doing 2 unlock payg phones from other networks so i can get a decent phobe,)

respect uv cracked it, thanku! 2day i shall move in2 spare room. I need night 2b a relaxing zone, not just lying waiting 4 him 2 speak 2 me etc. & perhaps @ the same time he may just start to understand how hard i really am finding all of this