I'm finding the constant little niggles in this friendship are getting increasingly hard to deal with. But when I think of it objectively, I think maybe I'm being overly controlling and picky.
Some examples of friends behaviour:
9 times out of 10 he is really vague when making plans - we'll arrange to meet and he'll say i'll be there 'after lunch' which could mean anything, or i'll see you between 5 and 6 and he,ll end up coming at 7 anyway. I've explained SO many times that i'm too busy for vagueness, i dont care what time he comes, just be clear and stick to it.
He keeps shutting my window/s. I usually have a window open somewhere in the house and he keeps sutting it. Despite me telling him every single time not to.
Turns the news channel on. I dont want it on, he knows this but keeps doing it anyway.
Fiddles with his phone while driving. I dont care if he does this when im not in the car but bloody pisses me off when i am.
There's loads more but all similarly petty.
All of these things ahve been going on for years. I started off letting it go as it was such small stuff then, after getting fed up with it, just explaining id rather he didnt do x " dont shut that window please, i like having a bit of fresh air", "dont turn BBC24 on doofus, you know i dont like it" etc... But now i get seriously pissed off and when he turned up yesterday 2 hours after he said he would i told him to leave. In fact i told him to fuck off.
He always says oh yeah, sorry - as if its the first time i've ever said it to him rather than the 100th! And then if I try to tackle him on the fact he repeatedly does things i ask him not to he blocks any conversation by saying something like "alright i know, i know! Look the windows open again/i was just quickly checking something" (news or phone) In this really exasperated tone as if i'm totally over reacting. And of course i AM over reacting really.
I absolutely do not want to end the friendship, apart from this stuff he is fantastic and we've been friends for a long time but im getting to the point where i feel myself just bristle thinking about it all.
Am i being weird here? Have totally lost all perspective on this.