Anyone heard from brighteyes..?

[SHHHHnearly2006]

Just a little concerned about her as I haven't heard from her since the end of Nov...xx

I was thinking the same Shhhh, hope she and lo are okay xx

Hi Both

No need to worry, just trying to get my life back on track.

Dp has asked for us to make a go of things. He realises it was only lust with the other woman and he loves me and dd.

We have contacted relate and are waiting for an appointment. Hopefully all this confusion and heartache will make us stronger and teach us to be grateful for what we have instead of taking it for granted.

Things are still tense at the moment but as long as we keep working at it I think we could make it work. We owe it to dd to at least try.

Thanks to everyone who give me advice and support through one of the hardest times of my life. Fingers crossed that some good comes out of it and there will be a happy ending

Hi brighteyes, I am so glad you are still around and that things seem to be going along quite positively. I hope it works out with your dp and I hope 2006 is better for you 3 as a family. Glad you are going to relate as from what I have heard they are a good path to take esp when things are at a crossroad iykwim. Make sure you let us know how you get on and come and visit us on the old "due in may thread".We have been worried about you. Feel free to CAT me if you need a chat etc.

Happy new year to you and your family. xx

Hi Brighteyes. Yes, I too hope things are looking up for you in 2006. And I hope all three of you can get through this with a happy ending. Please ocme back to the May thread if you need some support / advise.

Happy New year....

Hey, maybe we could all do with a meet up sometime in the next couple of months? Can't remember where you are.

Brighteyes, glad to see you back, good luck with working out your relationship, I'm glad things are more positive.
Happy New Year to all of you.

I'm so glad that things are looking up for you Brighteyes. Come back to the May thread?

Can I offer one quick bit of advice - please feel free to totally ignore it and tell me to butt out but I think in your position, I would consider making sure that I couldn't be put in the same house/money situation again, e.g. getting your name put on the house or putting some money away regularly in a separate account...

{hugs} anyway, we're all hoping for the best for you.

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Brighteyes that's the best news I've had in ages!! I am sooooooooooo pleased for you. I really hope it works.
Sitting here in tears in fact - just wish my sis and her husband would do the 'grown up' thing and try relate.
They've just decided to separate and have told the world - including their kids - before really talking it through.
Have never felt so gutted in my life - because of the kids. Lots of other 'needy' members of the family just now too, so just don't know who to help next - or how.
Just wish 2006 would disappear or that God would give me a few extra pairs of hands so that I can be five places at once.

so glad to hear your ok brighteyes, and im glad you have decided to give it another go. me and my dp went through a bad time a while ago, and were on the verge of spilting but we decided to give it another go and try and make it work for ds but also for ourselves as there was still something there worth saving, as we've realised now and we are getting on really well and things are so much better. the advise id give is to always be honest with each other, whatever your feeling needs to be said keeping it in will only make it worse. even if you think it will be hurtful its better they know trust me.

well i wish you all the luck in the world, and make your you take care of yourself and dd. all the best for 2006 x x x

sorry i meant to type make sure not your

Mathewsmummy, glad to hear things are better for you too.

Thanks for the support everyone but u may want to read my original thread. Once again he has posted to keep everyone updated.

Dont think its ever going to work between us. Although I still want to be with him he cant get over this other woman. Like I said to him the only person I'm willing to come second place to is dd.

Oh Brighteyes, I'm sorry. HE can't get over her? Now I'm sad for you again.

Can you link the thread? Forgot where it is and what it's called.

original thread

Are you ok?

I'm very confused. He wants to try and make it work and go to relate.

I dont know if I'm flogging a dead horse or just running away for fear of being hurt again.

What should I do?

AW, brighteyes, I wish I could just give you all the answers. But, I think relate is the place to find them. I think you should not go to relate with the expectation that relate will fix your relationship. But rather I think you should go to relate with the idea that it will help you decide what YOU want.

Do you want to be with him? Does he want to be with you? Can you forgive him?

I think you have to make these decisions, but relate can perhaps help you make them.

Where are you, Brighteyes? I can't remember, but I think you're in the south. Also can't remember if you've gone bak to work?

brighteyes how are you doing...?? You have been quiet for too long. Hope all is ok. xx