Have you ever told your dp about past abusive relationships?

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I have some issues relating to abuse but I feel I can live with them and would like to start dating again.
There is no way I would tell a new man about my past straight away but as time moves on i may need to elaborate. Have any of you women who have suffered from domestic abuse told your new dp, if so, when and how did they react?

I think I would have to mention it later in the relationship as it is part of my past and who I am etc.

I suffered from an abusive relationship 8 years ago when I was a teenager. I repressed what had happened and started to have flashbacks when I met my first 'serious boyfriend' 4 years later.
Since then, these come and go pretty often. I am now with a different man, engaged, and pregnant and had to be honest with him before anything progressed. He was incredibly supportive and understanding, actually wanting to help move on.
I just asked him what his thoughts were and mainly he wants to find the person and kill them (have never said who he is) and also, he wanted to prove he was never going to be like that.
Hope this helps, sorry for the long post.
Good luck with moving on from this. Be honest but only when your comfortable with the person, and when you feel how not telling them could be affecting the relationship and/or progression of it.

yes I did with DP (XH & Prev BF), funny thing never mentioned any of it to XH until after we split up and I had to move back to the area the first BF was, and I was concerned for our DS, & basically the BF finding us (I'd left town 10 years prior due to him). otherwise XH would never of known, DP however I knew I could trust as he's caring & sincere. Guess as they say when ya meet the right person it all slots into place and that jazz.

Do feel for DP thou as he's had to work twice as hard to 'prove' he was trust worthy and i'm sure at times, well know at times he was close to giving up as I kept pushing him away, but very glad he didn't.

Yes, I met DP 18 mon after end of abusive relationship with man who also had severe MH problems, and was a bit, kets say, over careful, and reacted weirdly to some stuff- flinching,always expecting to be bawled out/at, looking for stuff flying at the walls etc. - I had to. But I would have, anyway. Although the combi of abuse and mental health (schizo-affective) is really hard to explain, and I don't think he will ever fully understand.
He has been very supportive and patient, and very cross with my ex on my behalf.

(let's, not kets)