Dh reckons that I spend too much time talking on the phone to my mother and that my attention to her means that he and I have no real relationship. We have been married for three years and have one ds.
I thought we were both happy but then, after one particularly long phone chat with dm he went into a mood for about three days, then exploded saying that our relationship is non-existent because I am always thinking about dm. She is lonely and I think depressed and doesn't have any real friends, just relatives and aquaintances. I explained this to him but he said that we need some boundaries and even talked of separating , which just came out of nowhere, but he says he's been unhappy about this for a long time.
DM does often call in the evenings and perhaps three or four times a day.
Meanwhile, mil is often over here to stay and to visit, my mother rarely comes over.
I have now told DM all this, and that we should cut back on our chats, particularly in the evening when dh is home, but I feel really gutted for her and think this will affect her relationship with ds. She was heartbroken when I told her.