very sad

[KittyAnne]

My (D)P had a hissy fit today and ordered me out of the car about 10 minutes walk from home. He is prone to tantrums you'd expect from a 2 year old. I'm pregnant and really vulnerable. I feel isolated- his family is close by, mine is not- and trapped. Before, I would have Buggered off and headed out with my friends, but that's not an option anymore. He's p1ssed off out, probably to the pub. He won't admit he done something wrong.

I miss my free and single days.

He is prone to tantrums you'd expect from a 2 year old

Kitty this has obviously been going on for some time and you have got used to it. That is a VERY bad sign.

You have dealt with these violent outbursts (which is what they are btw, not trantrums) by leaving him alone and going elsewhere.

When the baby comes you won't be able to do that.

What will you do when he is verbally aggressive to you and the baby is asleep and you can't leave the house.

Will you walk out and leave a violent unstable man in charge of the baby?
Will you pick up the baby, blankets, changing bag, nappies etc. and carry them all out of the house with nowhere to go?
Or will you stay in the house letting him abuse you and letting the baby grow up in that environment.
And if you can't leave the house what more will he do to you.

Don't look at the individual incident, look at the whole picture. Sure, he will calm down and be sorry and things will be 'great'. Until the next time. It will happen again and again just as it has done in the past. Nothing will change.

I would say I don't want to frighten you, but I do want to frighten you a little bit because I think you might be at risk and you need to understand this as much for the sake of your child as yourself.