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Sick of this rollercoaster ride :(

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katkin73 · 02/11/2011 18:48

Long story short, discovered dh having Internet affairs at start of July, lousy lousy summer as you can probably imagine, I've experienced every emotion there is, but we are working on it and things have been good, early part of this week I felt great, even to the point of thinking I would be able to trust him again (one day) then out of nowhere I plummet again feel paranoid suspicious crying want to leave feel like I can't live like this not fair on either of us, is this just a phase? And if so when does it get better? I have lost so much confidence, feel ugly and useless, I want me back :(

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UnlikelyAmazonian · 02/11/2011 19:55

When you say 'internet affairs' what do you mean?

Is there any reason you can put your finger on that you have plummeted?

What sort of RL advice or support have you had?

Only you know your man, but for me this would be very very tough to get over and beyond. How long have you been married and do you have children?

Has he made real concrete changes to the way he behaves - ie is he genuinely transparent about his phone/laptop/movements? And do his friends and family know what he was doing?

Sorry for all the questions. If you still plummet and feel so terrible 3 months on, it might be time for you to ask for a brief separation. Nothing wrong with that as he has jeopardised your marriage, not you. He needs to face up to the consequences. How would he feel if you had been having internet affairs ??

Very sorry you are suffering like this. Others will be along soon with better advice. x

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