Have I a right to be upset...?

[plaster]

Because my dp didnt buy me a christmas card from our dd.

did he get one from him? I wouldn't be bothered if he did

Blimey - dh sent one Christmas card. It would never occur to him to send me one from our children. Does he normally send you one?

My DH didn't send me or anyone else a Christmas card - never mind on behalf of the Girls. I personally wouldn't be upset. If it matters to you let him know and he might try harder next year.

yes. Not sure if im over reacting as i went to loads of effort for his present and card from both me and dd. I know there are more important things but...!!

Personally, I wouldn't sweat the small stuff!

DH does organise cards from DCs for birthdays but DCs are now old enough to make their own cards which are far sweeter anyway.

I'm not entirely sure what the value of a card bought by DH on behalf of your DD is but perhaps I'm missing something!

our dd is 6m so my 1st xmas as a mummy, yes he normally gets me one and he was prewarned.
Think i might have over-reacted though

My dh has never sent anyone a Christmas card (except probably his mistress) without me buying it and sticking it under his nose with the address book and stamps. I wouldn't expect a card from someone I live with or expect to spend Christmas with. But I would expect a present! I try and get the children to chose or make a present for all my close family, I think it is really important. Have you always helped dd with a card/present - did your dh know that it was expected? I know that my and dh's ideas about what is important are very different, and this often causes problems between us.

agghh, your first christmas as a mummy now I understand. I remember feeling terrible when dh bought me my first mothers day card and it didn't say mummy on, it was a poor offering from the garage. all I can say is 4 years on it was actually me who forgot to get him a card from the ds's this year. don't worry just spell it out next time.

I didnt get one from the boys this year, usually get one for both christmas and birthdays...

I got one for dh from the boys.

It had never occured to me to be bothered by it

oh, it was the first christmas..

yes, in that case i would probably have been looking forward to having my first 'mommy' card.

We never do this in our house. It would never ever occur to dh to do this. It occurred to me, but I couldn't be bothered

And we NEVER send presents 'from the children'. I think it's a bit silly tbh.

I would be too plaster. I was ridiculously upset my first mothers day when the card was to "mum" not "mummy". Dh just couldn't understand it and I couldn't explain it either.

Funny thing is, this year we've all done cards to each other (me, dh, dd and dsd) and I've looked at them on the mantlepiece and thought "what a waste of money" and suggested that next year we don't bother and go to the cinema with the money we'd spent instead.

We use the same christmas cards year after year....just add a new message each time they are pulled out of the christmas decorations box!!
Ive got the original card my DH sent me for our first christmas together and it has 16 messages written in it now...the Ds's have the same too and they will make a nice keepsake (I hope) when they are older.

Jayz - that sounds like a lovely idea

So good that I might even steal it... ha ha robber soapbox

Eh plaster??
Are you serious!!??

There really are more important things to worry about. My 43 year old cousin (singly obviously) gets cards and presents from his mother's cat and dog.

He will probably also get a little something from his niece's giant African snails this year (and I kid you not!)

My mum buys me christmas, birthday and mothers day cards from dd and ds as she knows that dh won't bother. I don't think dh even realises that she does it.

jyazmummy, what a lovely idea! saves paper too and nicely bypasses a commercialised aspect of christmas. I really like that and as you say, it makes a great keepsake.

I can't say I'd expect my dh to get me a christmas card from him or my sons, but if this is a big family tradition in your family, plaster I guess I can see why you're upset.

i bought a card from dd for dp and he wasnt bothered think he just left it on the couch

only if you asked him to do it and he said yes IMHO

We don't do christmas cards to each other inthis house. Actually that isn't true, the kids make one in school I suppose. We never bought them cards when theyr were too young for school.

We do send birthday cards/ mothers/ fathers day cards.

My kids are now old enough to want to give us gifts....which they sometimes make

Is your dd old enough to want to send cards? If not, the only card I might expect is a mothers' day card from dd organised by dh. And even then, I would not be upset if that got missed. Any card from dd at this point is really a card from dh, and just a token really. Not into tokenism.

My DH moaned that I hadn't sent cards to his friends this year.

This year I cut out everyone we hadn't seen or contacted/had contact, for 1 year. We halved our card thingy.

When I met Dh he had never sent a card in his life, so as far as I am concerned he can go f..............

Oh and he didn't send them to me or DS either, tosser