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Feeling very sad now...

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dizzykizzy · 01/11/2011 23:33

It has taken me 5 years to get to this point. My marriage has been in slow decline and I posted recently here

I think I finally got through to him tonight and he is falling apart. I hate myself for having gone through with this but I got to the point where I had no choice. There are still many hurdles to go over; not least telling the DCs and physically moving out. I don't think he will leave but I have found somewhere for DCs and me to go and can move in next week so that is what I will need to do.

Why won't he go and why won't he accept that our relationship is broken? This is so hard to do and I know the worst is yet to come. I'm very low, I feel like a cruel, cold hearted cow and I can't talk to anyone in RL until tomorrow. Just feeling very sad...

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pickgo · 01/11/2011 23:41

He probably won't accept it because he's scared of being on his own, not with his kids, the change in itself.... like the rest of us really.

But it's not cruel to get out of an unhappy relationship, it's a brave and sensible thing to do for you all so don't beat yourself up. This bit will be heart-wrenching and stressful but once you're over that it will all feel better for you all. Once it's done then he'll start to adjust after a while, as you all will.

Good luck.

dizzykizzy · 01/11/2011 23:58

Thank you pickgo - I just needed to say something to someone before I went to bed x

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