potted version as its late and i,m feeling very emotional and slightly irrational-wots new i think to myself!!!
separated three years.....divorce funding applied for...ex was i now know emotionally abusing me....two semi well adjusted kids who are taking everything in their stride at min....
upgrade man is younger,fitter and very sexy.....BUT........
when we started going out he said he didnt want anything heavy just some fun....i agreed thinking it wouldnt last but it has....been nine months now.....my life is now very exciting....i,ve lost weight,got myself back and made some new friends and new hobbies(for me not him) and my life is interesting and full both with or without him-i didnt want to ever be reliant on a man again......
so whats the problem.............i,ve tried not to fall for him,have tried just to keep him as a f@@k buddy but like a fool i dont think i,ve succeeded...........i figured if i gave him time and kept it cool then maybe we could move into something deeper-not now but long term-i wont admit it to anyone in real life but i,m in love with him and thats not good if its just a bit of fun.............
should i run now or just go with flow which is what i want to do i just dont want to get myself in a mess.............
hes a decent hard working guy but is a little eccentric........he talks one way-doesnt do romance or slush-but acts another,very physical,touchy feely,spends most of his free time with me when i dont have kids,when i do he spends time with his mates.....
one major concern is that he doesnt have any contact with his family except his sister..........that suits me as exs family were a complete nightmare but is it a red flag???
he talks bout the future bout wot we going to do-has booked and paid for a hol for us nxt year(this will b third one)but then talks about wanting to be a lonely old man on his own...........
in the words of the song.should i stay or should i go now,cause if i stay there will b trouble...namely me getting my heart broken............