Getting back together

[arethra]

I've recently got back with a guy who I had a short relationship with about a year ago. It was his decision to end it originally, but he got in touch with me a month ago and we started things up again. I was hurt last time we broke up, but I still had feelings for him so I thought I'd give it another go.
My problem is that despite things going well, in the pit of my stomach I have this anxiety that it will all go wrong again and he'll dump me. I know there are no guarantees in any relationship, and I have not asked for any from him, but I can't shake this feeling. If I haven't heard from him for a day, or he takes a while to respond to a text I tie myself in knots. Fortunately I don't go OTT and he's not aware of this.
Am I normal? Any tips on how I can calm myself?

What were the reasons for the relationship ending in the first place?

It would be difficult not to feel insecure in this situation, and I feel for you.

Would you say usually (this r/ship aside) that you were an insecure person? It sounds like this is rather out of character for you to feel this unhappy, and it makes me slightly worry that he isn't doing enough to make you feel that he's keen on you.

It also sounds like there is a slight imbalance of feeling in the r/ship, - HE chose to end it, now HE's chosen to restart it. You say that you haven't asked for any guarantees in the r/ship, but I don't think it would be unreasonable of you to ask for some clarity.

Can we have some more details, - how long have you known each other, how did it end, and how did he suggest to you that it should restart?

It ended because he had things going on his life and didn't feel he could fully commit to a relationship. He says he can now. I was heartbroken when he ended it. He does tellme now that he loves me and wants to be with me, but I cannot get rid of this doubt.

What was going on in his life and what has he been doing in the past year?

Has he just come out of a relationship with another woman?

No, I don't think there was another woman. But I suppose there could have been. I'm happy to put the past behind me and try again with this bloke, but it's just the nawing anxiety I feel about the whole thing. I wish I could relax a bit. I hate myself for feeling like this, and to be fair he has not really done anything since we've got back together to make me feel this way. I do really love him and he says he loves me. I just don't believe him.

After a month he says he loves you?