relationship through redundancy

[rainbowbreeze]

I'm in the process of being made redundant, me and OH moved into our new house in July and have been trying for a baby this year which we've had to put on hold now
OH is being very supportive, giving lots of encouragement that i'll find another job in no time etc. I'm so worried though how we will cope financially, what Xmas will be like and most upset about stopping TTC, how can I make sure this doesnt affect our relationship ?? I keep telling OH how I feel but I just wonder what has got you through hard times like this ?

Well wouldn't you have gone on mat leave anyway?

My DH was made redundant at the same time as I left my job to start up my own business. it was very hard financially but we got to spend more time together, he was much less stressed and he helped me a lot with my business.

You have to look for the positives and it may be hard but there will be some. Do you have to stop TTC? As the previous poster said you would have been on maternity leave and reduced pay if you still had your job and then all the childcare costs going back to work afterwards.

Of course I don't know your financial situation but if are you able to make any cut backs in your spending then maybe you can manage with a baby and one income with the tax credits/child benefit.

I would sit down and add it all up - you may be surprised.

As far as your relationship goes, if you are strong anyway then you will get through it. You are a team and both on the same side. Just give each other support as you have a period of adjustment that will be hard for both of you at times.

I would have gone on Mat leave yes but once pregnant I would have had a few months to save up while working and then get the enhanced benefits.. I think it will be even harder to get a job if i'm pregnant ?
I've never been on benefits before so i've no idea what kind of help we would get, I could look into that, I just cant help feeling it would be irresponsible to get pregnant while out of work. We will be able to pay the bills with OHs wages but will have to cut back on everything and it will be tough I imagine

My DH lost his job at the end of last year and he earned approx twice what I earn. Since that point he has been unable to secure a new job, we have gone through IVF (twice!), I am currently pregnant and work fulltime. It?s amazing how you can adapt to your new situation ? easy, no, but you make do. I?m also not sure there is ever a perfect time to have a baby.

I guess im used to the lifestyle we have at the moment and I wouldnt want our baby to miss out on anything.. and I know obviously we wouldnt be going out much with a baby! Congrats on your pregnancy Anewstart

I know what you mean Rainbow re lifestyle - but on the flip side the baby will have lots of one-on-one time and lots of love - they don't need very much, especially in the beginning.