sticking to my needs means i am still alone

[fedupandalone]

I have been separated for 3 years divorced for a year, 2 youngish DC.
ExH is involved in DC lives and I make an effort to ensure it stays that way.

I really am ready for another relationship, but circumstances mean it is nearly impossible to meet someone and maintain a relationship.

Met someone in sept - really getting on well, really saw that there might be something there and then bam, it hits me - he wants kids I dont :(

This is not something I will ever have a change of heart on, to the point that I am on the list to be sterilised as the thought of having more children terrifies me.

Not sure I will ever find someone who will want to put up with me and my baggage

sorry for the self indulgant theme here - just feeling really low atm

Loads of men won't want kids.

Just try and find someone with their own baggage!!

I am more than happy to meet someone with their own baggage,

I think I am just realising though that my own baggage is more than most would be willing to take on :(

I am feeling that in order to give my children the life I want for them I am having to compromise my own needs.

It is not just about this guy although I suppose that is what has prompted me to post.

Think being totally alone emotionally is just beginning to hit home.