what's dating like as a divorcee?

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I cant wait for my divorce to go through so I can get into the dating game again but I am wondering how the reality will match up with my dreams of post-marriage dating. Ex-h was my first boyfriend, I never dated anyone else and I am terrified it's a case of the grass is greener, even though I know I can't stay with him for many reasons, too many to go into here. Would any mumsnetters, male or female, like to comment?

I think datng when you are older is harder, the only way to meet people is online unless you have a very active social life, then you only meet men in pubs that are already with people but want a bit on the side.

As people get older they know more what they don't want so are more particular, whilst looks attract that is only the first hurdle.

wWell for a start, please do not define yourself as a Divorcee. That says so much about how you are thinking.

You are you, currently married soon to be single. Get to know yourself for a while, what you like, find out how you want to live your life, relish your new found freedoms.

Then, and only then, go out and have fun first, then consider dating as you

as a male, I didnt have any problem but then I did have an overactive social life and am generally very outgoing (will talk to anyone) thoug weirdly quite shy and crap at chatting women up/breaking the ice etc.
There are thousands of people in the same boat as you and they are all as scared and wary as you.
Take it easy. Get some friends to get you out with them and to places they know and fell safe. Try internet dating but remember the rules.
You will be fine.
Good luck

Kuna, thanks, I do tend to find that I am never ever ever approached by men in bars/pubs though, I don't know whether it is that I am too shy to make eye contact or what...have been reliably informed I am attractive...so am trying social groups like meetup at the moment to try and get to know people.

zombie helen, should I put profile as single instead of divorced on dating sites then?

I split up with Exh a year ago after 14 years together, he was my first boyfriend.
Am having a great time at the moment and the grass really is greener on the other side.

well that's good to know!