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Could you spend all day, every day with your dh??

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lisad123 · 29/10/2011 23:59

We are looking at moving and there will be a cross over between dh giving notice and finding work, which isnt a problem as we have money set aside to keep us going for a year (selling house and going into rented, so have excess from house sale)
Anyways I made a passing comment to dh earlier about needing to find work and how if we were together all day every day I would end up going crazy. He looked hurts and asked if he was that hard to live with

Yes some times he bugs me, but i love him and we get on ok, but i really do like my space (he doesnt seem to need any)

He then said what will happen when we retire and I repliedthat we would have money to go and do stuff, have friends to see and travelling to do.

I know after 2 weeks holiday is about the limit for me, before he starts getitng under my feet, I want to get back to normal and he starts to bug me a little.

Anyone else like this??
Im used to doing things myself and getting things done i guess

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FrankNCock · 30/10/2011 00:04

Not if we were in the same room. In the same house, we'd probably be ok. My PILs sit in the same room all day and annoy the crap out of each other.

Kayano · 30/10/2011 00:05

No!!!!

My mum and dad live each other to bits but my mum just went back to
Work a couple of days a week after he retired to get some space away from him! Lol they are celebrating 40 years next year

My DH I love him to bits but we have our own seperated interests hobbies and friends and I treasure our differences as much as the things we share. I think it's hard for any one person to be with any other one person ALL oF THE TIME.

I get you totally

bibbitybobbitybloodyaxe · 30/10/2011 00:05

No way.

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 30/10/2011 00:06

DH goes through phases of working at home a lot, and we do get irritated with each other after a while.

Depends if you are busy or loitering though. Loitering together for weeks on end would be a disaster I would think!

joanofarchitrave · 30/10/2011 00:08

Nope.

MrsRetchingBloodAndGuts · 30/10/2011 00:09

Well would you really be together all of the time? Surely there are things you can do separately? I couldn't be with dp 24/7 but he often works from home so is here quite a lot and we do ok we just don't crowd each other.
Our house isn't that big either.

deviladvocate · 30/10/2011 00:11

My first thought was not a chance, we'd drive each other insane! Although a few years back when DH had gardening leave for 6 weeks we were constantly getting in each others way and at odds over what could be done when (we had DD1 as a small baby then) however after the first fortnight DH grew accustomed to the daily pattern of life at home and baby's routine and we really enjoyed it in the end, it really changed his perception of life outside of working in the city. Actually I wonder how he'd cope with the reality of life now with 3 DC's midweek!

I think though that moving house takes up so much time and energy that you'd be so busy and both occupied you'd be fine.

JennyPiccolo · 30/10/2011 00:14

my DP and i spend most days together as neither of us are working just now. Been that way for a year. One bedroom flat. Sometimes he drives me nuts but i think on the whole we manage pretty well.

DiscoDaisy · 30/10/2011 00:16

My OH and myself run our own business together. We spend from 9.30-2.30 mon-thurs together and fri 9.30-12.30 together.
We find it easier than we thought we would and we are much better at handling any disagreements between us. Obviously we spend mornings before work and evenings after 6 together as well.

LeBOOOf · 30/10/2011 00:17

Definitely. He is my favourite person in the world.

Fo0ffyShmooffer · 30/10/2011 00:19

Maybe we are the exception but yes. We did it for 10 years and would again in a heartbeat if we could.
Due to my DHs medical condition he couldn't work for 10 years so we were together 24/7. People used to ask how we didn't kill each other and that we must have been lying when we said we lived being home together.
You may find like us that you find each other bloody good company. You find a routine and a dynamic that works.

Lime I said though maybe we are a bit of an exception.

Fo0ffyShmooffer · 30/10/2011 00:21

loved being home together.

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lisad123 · 30/10/2011 00:28

when dh got sick a few years back, he was home for 2 months, and we were fine, so i know we can do it.
I guess im surprised that he thought it wouldnt be a problem at all. The girls are at school now, and i have quite a lot on, im very busy normally.

Im sure we will be fine, was just pondering if i was a little weird and a terrible wife :)

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NatashaBee · 30/10/2011 00:35

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wicketkeeper · 30/10/2011 01:12

DH and I work together a lot of the time. The rest of the time he's working abroad. I much prefer the times when we are together to the times when we are apart.

BornToBeRiled · 30/10/2011 08:31

Not sure 24 hrs a day, but on the whole we get on better when we are together more because we talk more.

Malificence · 30/10/2011 08:48

Yep, no problem whatsoever.
We are at the moment, DH is recuperating after surgery , he's been off for 3 weeks and will be off for at least another 3, so apart from the 15 hours I work, we're together. Apart from the odd grump because he's frustrated at not improving as fast as he would like , it's great.

lazarusb · 30/10/2011 11:20

We've been together 16 years and are still very much actively in love. We can't get enough of each other and miss each other while apart during the day, we text a lot...My Mum and her DH work together too and they love it but both see friends independently of one another so they are not permanently 'attached'! I think I'd quite like that However, with my ex one of us would have ended up doing time....literally

motherinferior · 30/10/2011 11:22

Christalmighty no, we'd kill each other

fivegomadindorset · 30/10/2011 11:23

We pretty much have done for the last 6 years.

motherinferior · 30/10/2011 11:26

Seriously, I would get very bored. And stir-crazy. Mr Inferior has many wonderful qualities, but the point is that he's quite different from me in many ways. We like having jobs and friends where we get the hell out of each others' hair!

HeresTheScaryThingBooyhoo · 30/10/2011 11:28

my best friend and her DH would love nothing more than being able to spend all day everyday together. they are best friends and really enjoy each other's company. i dont know any other couple that get on as well as they do. i hope i am as happy someday soon

LaurieFairyCake · 30/10/2011 11:29

It's not him -I need my own space from everyone. I need at least 2 hours a day on my own with my own thoughts.

WaitingForMe · 30/10/2011 11:44

I'd love it. He is my best friend and most days I get excited about seeing him when he gets in from work. The plan is for him to be out of formal work within 3 1/2 years so that we are living less for the weekends.

That's not to say he never annoys me and I don't love my trips away from him but it'd be fantastic to have lunch together each day before returning to our work.

Faffalina · 30/10/2011 19:57

No.

And not just with him, to be with anyone all day every day, no thanks!

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