Too old to meet someone?

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This is going to sound ridiculous. Am 42, with 3 kids and in a relationship which really has to end as have had the same problems for years with no resolution.

Am very scared of separating. I know that being single would probably be very beneficial for me in lots of ways. However a small voice also wonders whether I may at some point meet someone else (after separating that is). Another small voice thinks that at almost 43 it may just be too late???? That's how it feels anyway.

I have a fantasy that dh is suddenly going to become tactile and loving but I have had this fantasy for years to no avail . He really does not need or want me.

Thats so sad that you have said your DH doesnt want or need you :(

My sister had given up on finding someone after being on her own since my DN was born (13 years ago) and when she was 41 she met someone and had a baby :) You never know whats round the corner.

I am 43, I met the love of my life last year, he was 46 then. We both have a history of poor choices in past relationships but we have definitely got it right this time.

So no, it's not too late and you're not too old.

My dad was widowed two years ago when my mum died. He's 67 now and has met a lady who is in her late fifties with 4 grown up boys.

His wild and fabulous neighbour started a sexual encounter with the chap across the road from her. She confesses to walking home with her knickers in her pocket. They are both in their 80's!!!!!!!

Closer to your age, my friend left her unhappy marriage last year. She is 41 and has two teenage kids. She is fighting men off left right and centre. She's with a guy at the moment who is desperate to settle down and have a baby with her. I'm waiting for her big announcement!

Good luck. You're never too old to be happy and be true to yourself x

I was sorting out some old letters a few months back and found one from a schoolfriend who was very excited to be going to her grandmother's wedding - think she was in her 70s (grandmother not the schoolfriend )

It's never too late!

I separated from my ExP when DS was 2- now almost 3 years ago. I was 45. My other 2 children were 15 and 12.
I met my lovely partner/ boyfriend 1 year ago. Same age as me, also has 3 children- none as young as my little one.
And I have all 3 children all the time- Ex has not had contact for 1 yr. I work full time, plus overtime.
Best thing I ever did, separating. 42 is no age at all, spring chicken!

My mom met and married her 2nd husband after divorcing, she was in her mid-late 50s! I honestly don't know why she didn't divorce my dad sooner, they were miserable for years, and they're both happier now.

my dad is 73 and has recently met a lovely new 'lady' friend.

43? you are still young.
age is all in the mind. I feel like an 18 yr old (but my wife wont let me have one!!)

She confesses to walking home with her knickers in her pocket. They are both in their 80's!!!!!!

Bet she didn't confess to the pardre chimcar.

I hope the frillies in her pocket came off for the right reason and not just because she was caught short

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My mum met my stepdad when she was 45 and he was 40 (toyboy ), both single parents to teenage children. They've been together for 22 years .

'Course you are not too old to meet someone else. But that's not really the issue at the moment, is it? Your current relationship sounds very unhappy. Deal with that first and don't rush in to anything else.

izzy...she'll tell anyone who will listen!

seriously...she told my dad that she couldn't stop to chat..she'd been up to no good with "arthur across the road" and still had her knickers in her pocket!

bloody brilliant.

I will be the one who gives you the other side. As much as it was lovely to read all above stories my experience is this: I am 40, I have been single for 5 years now, I have three young children between 7 and 10. I have been on a few fruitless dates, I have had some 'just for sex' dates. There has so far not been anyone seriously interested. I can get sex if that is what I wanted, but that is all that is on offer. I want is to find someone I love who will love me back. There are very few men interested in a single mum in my experience. I feel lonely, rejected, unwanted and it is dragging me down. I am surrounded by married friends and their families all giving me the 'you will find someone one day'. It is humiliating. My greatest fear is another year like this, never mind another 5, 10 , 25 or 40 years. I wouldn't wish this life on anyone.