really worried about my niece and nephew

[Tommy]

I suspect my sister has mental health issues. She is paranoid, completely unreasonable and has been very unpleasant about various things over many years.
She has a daughter (nearly 17) and a son of 8.
I am very worried about them both as they seem to be suffering in a hyper sensitive household. She told my nephew that the reason he didn't a place in the local cub pack is that none of the scout groups in their area like them
My niece has told my Mum that she s really looking forward to being old enough to have her own flat so that he can come and live with her.

There are too many things to wrote about but I have no idea if there's anything I can do apart from suppporting my niece (she is on Facebook) and generally just tryng to include my nephew in things although sister is very anti

Making me very and don't know what to do....

Hiya didn't want to not answer but I don't know what to say. Could you talk to SS and they could maybe encourage your sister to start counselling? Sorry not too sure but you sound great for being there for her kids.

Have you tried talking to your sister about her behaviour of her children? Has she sought help she can take Respiradone for paranoia it works I take it.

How locally do they live?

TBH I would speak to social servies or perhaps speak to NSPCC?

Yes, I agree, speak to the NSPCC now and then to social services.

Those poor children.

Has your sister always been paranoid? Are there other things that worry you - are the children well cared for? Do they eat enough?

How far away do you live from them?

thanks for your responses.

There is no way I could talk to my sister about it. She has only just started talking to any of the family again after a big row 2 Christmasses ago. We have always had to tread on eggshells around her anyway and she would just take this as criticism. I once suggested (after she was complaining about working so many hours, childcare etc) that she went part-time and maybe moved to a less expensive area and she accused me of wanting her and the family to be homeless ()

not sure if SS would need to be involved - from the outside they are fine. She holds down a very responsible job, her DH works too, daughter just done GCSEs and is loving sixth form, her son - probably a bit quiet at school maybe but not anything to ring alarm bells.

I've told friends about her and they just all say "umm... she sounds very weird" which is true but not very helpful!

My uMm is very concerned and supportive. Sister has finally let the kids stay at Mum's so she is encouraging that as often as possible.
She lives about 8 miles away from me but we don't see each other often. If our Dad hadn't died this summer, we probably still wouldn't have spoken in the 2 years. The reason it's in my mind at the moment is that we saw them yesterday with their other cousins and they both seemed very withdrawn compared to the general cameraderie (sp?) of the others

Not sure what I wanted anyone to suggest really but thanks anyway

I think all you can do is hope that the dc spend more time with your Mum, is staying with you an option too so the cousings can get together?

I am happy for them to come here - sister mgt not wnat them to come though. She accused my DH of assaulting her and accused me, Mum and my other sister of conspiring to cook up a story to excuse hi.

It all sounds like EastEnders doesn't it