I've got a good friend, she's a godparent to my daughter and a good mum to 4 kids but it feels like she is often trying to compete and I don't know what to do!
For example, my DS has struggled a bit at school and so is about to start with explore learning, which may be good for him. He enjoyed the trial session but if he doesn't like it, he'll stop. She knows he is struggling a bit and I'm not trying to compete with her but when I mentioned it she said, 'Oh my xxx doesn't need that kind of thing, his school is really good, he's in the top sets for everything etc, etc'. 'I think football is the best outside learning they can do, and of course xxx (her DS) is fantastic at football' (She also knows my DS isn't great at sports either.
Then she said, she was upset as she has a bit of a flabby tummy. To be honest she is very slim but does have a bit of a tummy (she's been pregnant 4 times so it's not surprising really). and that people at work had asked if she was pregnant a few times. I sympathised but then she said, 'well you've got a bit of a flabby tummy too!' (I know I have btw but wasn't looking to run myself down at that time!