Divorced, finances sorted. House in both names for sale. House had subsidance caused by protected tree. Protection order gone. Insurance dealing with claim. I pay premiums.
I diagnosed exh as narc, psychiatrist diagnosed him with adjustment disorder, which I think was to get him out of police trouble, long stroy...
It has been years of struggle to get free of him, to be fair though the court system and bumping, then subsidance issue pushed into loads of fdr's didn't help matters.
He is on insurance policy, and some twat when the main person was away, messed up. They contacted exh to organise repairs, I am not sure if he used this opportunity or was just being a dick. Without consulting me they organised a date for repairs to begin. I found out from the estate agents who had informed buyers etc, nice to be the last to know and not be consulted. I though it was odd and kept saying, surely if the tree is causing subsidance then it should come down before repairs, ignored by ea, insurance person and exh's solicitors... I chased again and suddenly I was right, and works due to begin on Monday are on hold, tree still no end in sight of being cut down... I seriously think that they forgot about cutting down the tree.
I can't flipping move till this is down, I am getting crap from kids and estate agents, and watched like a hawk by exh's solicitors who will haul me infront of a judge and twist things. I am sick of having viewings continually, I am also not well and it makes my condition worse the pressure and fact of house upkeep for viewings. I loose so many buyers over this subsidance thing, have no choice as a court order.
Is this bad luck, or what?
I want to get out of here, and move asap.
I also wonder if he is trying to keep me here, to know where we are, as once the move happens he won't know where we are living, he has no contact witht he kids.
His mother recently got in touch out of the blue, after not bothering with kids for ages.
It is all confusing me again, so I need an outside perspective after all that gaslighting I still doubt myself regarding him.