My husband of 7 years was seeming a bit off in April and I had a dream that he was having an affair with Julia Roberts .. it left me with such a sinking feeling so I checked his phone for the first time ever and there were flirty texts from an initial and surname. I phoned her from his phone and told her hands off he?s a married man and confronted him. He said he was really embarrassed and it was just a flirtation and he would knock it on the head.
He became more and more secretive with his phone over the summer and his favourite contact was a man at work in the logs .. fair enough I thought ? then he got a text from ?John Smith? with kisses on the end first thing one morning .. By this point he was taking the phone through to the spare room while he went for a shower in the ensuite .. there was only one text under the name ? the others had been cleared out. He told me it was a girl from work who had been raped and he was trying to help her (his sister was raped as a teenager). He said he didn?t tell me about it because I made him ?sick? and he wanted to keep it out of the house .. and that I didn?t listen to him anyway ?
He now takes the phone into the shower room with him and has changed the security pattern even after I had told him that I have serious issues with him always having the phone in sight. I asked him to stop keeping his phone with him and he shouted at me ? as you asked ? No!!!?
He denies that he is having an affair .. and he never really goes out much but you don?t have to be a body language expert to know that something precious to him is in that phone .. he also clears down all his history etc after he uses the laptop ?
He has used the ?I love you but am not in love with you? cliché ? I want to leave him but I don?t want my 6 year old daughter to lose her home and her friends and I don?t want to miss out on seeing her every day.