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If you are friends with your XH. . .

9 replies

FrankNCock · 26/10/2011 23:07

. . .do you acknowledge your former wedding anniversary at all?

Only wondering as I just had a call from XH because he's just seen a film he thought I'd really like. Today also happens to be our former wedding anniversary, would have been 9 years. We've been apart nearly half that time. Didn't speak for a while, then became friends again about 18 months ago when he had a bad health scare and nearly died.

I dunno, just feels awkward NOT to say anything. Hallmark should make a card for this. Something like 'Even though we're not married anymore, I'm glad you're still in my life and we don't hate each other'.

And for the record, DH2 is not jealous, he's met/hung out with XH and XPILs on several occasions. All quite civilised.

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OnlyWantsOne · 26/10/2011 23:07

I'd just say that. Exactly what you said Smile glad your friends etc

DizzyBrummie · 26/10/2011 23:20

Hi, I'm on good terms with XH and although I notice when it's my old anniversary I wouldn't acknowledge it, it's not a special day I want to remember Blush

Tigerbomb · 26/10/2011 23:31

I am also on excellent terms with my XH. I have remarried but he never wants to be with anyone else. We have been apart 6 years.

I do not bring up anniversaries at all because it upsets him. He mentions it but I quickly change the subject

DENMAN03 · 26/10/2011 23:33

Im on very good terms with my exh...A group of us all went out for a friends birthday and it also happened to have been out 10th wedding 'anniversary' .

We raised a glass to each other, wished each other happy anniversary and then said, wheres my present!

I wouldnt get him a card or anything but Im glad it was an amicable split. We both really care for each other but didnt love each other enough. No kids so I guess it makes it easier. I know we will always be close friends tho.

UnsureRightNow · 26/10/2011 23:33

My wedding anniversary also happens to be my divorce anniversary Grin

Neither of us acknowledge either.

HerRoyalNotness · 26/10/2011 23:34

Sometimes I vaguely think, wow, I'd have been married to exH for 17years now (Woah, scary), and then thank f*& that I'm not.

squeakyfreakytoy · 26/10/2011 23:56

I remember my husbands ex putting a photo of them up on facebook, of their wedding day, on what would have been their anniversary.. .. saying "awww happy days"... Hmm

Seeing as they had been divorced for 18 years, and he has been married to me for longer than he was married to her, and she was also at that time married to someone else, I was slightly unimpressed to say the least... but then she is completely barking so it didnt surprise me...

Dinkiedoo · 06/11/2011 13:23

my husband used to be "friends " with his ex but it wasnt a friendship it was a dictatorship. As long as hubby ddi her bidding life was quiet but God help him if he did not obey .
She finally lost it when we married and they no longer speak because of one thing and another.
To be honest Im glad as we dont get the weekly screaming phone call for some imagined slight against her when he does not do as he is told :-)

ImperialBlether · 06/11/2011 15:39

Funny reading this thread as it's the anniversary of meeting my ex - we didn't marry for about 12 years, so it's the date we used to celebrate.

Hmmm should I have stayed in that night?

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