do you do pros and cons lists of people you are dating?

[TenderlyLovinglyByAGoat]

is it helpful or do you think it's quite a big drawback in itself, needing to evaluate someone in such a way rather than simply letting things run their course or whatever?

Yes, have done this. The problem is it is very hard to quantify some aspects...like chemistry and sex - I feel like they should count for more.

I used to do this quite a lot, and usually, it meant one thing - they weren't right for me. If he was right, I'd be too happy and loved up to even consider drawing up a list. Sorry if this is a bit to Black and White.
I've never drawn a list for DH. I love his pros, and any cons don't matter - aren't even considered - because he's right.

"too" B&W - not to.

No, think of the trouble Ross got into.

If it's not as simple as the 'pro' being that he's yours, and the 'con' being that you didn't meet him sooner, then something's not quite right...

My partner does have some serious 'baggage' type cons, but as a person in his own right, he's fairly con-free.

oh I totally forgot about this thread

thanks for replies, funny, was thinking only just now about chemistry and sex and how they sort of slide away from being measured like this - which is partly how these lists defeat themselves isn't it?

even without an actual list I'd imagine most people weigh up the pro's and cons and generaly have a feel for whether the pro's outweigh the cons.
As with most things in life.
Sometimes writing an actual list can help you look more objectively about a situation..I find

No, but I did once work with someone who set out all his issues with his girlfriend in a Powerpoint presentation.

To this day I don't know if it was a joke, he saved it on the shared drive and a colleague of his found it and shared the link with the whole company.

When dating I had a check list in my head the size of the magnacarta