Ok so I know it's not Friday and I'm likely to be flamed/ called a troll or hairy trucker but rest assured I'm not. I'm not here to offend anyone or draw attention to myself. Just want an honest answer.
After coming out of a long-term relationship, and spending a night with someone I realised something about myself that I suppose I've always known was there - that I'm into a bit of kinkier sex.
Problem is I attract totally the opposite kind of guy. I've tried to explain to one or two and they are either shocked or just don't get it. My current fella I've just started to date doesn't really get it either and he's is too nice for me take him seriously even if he did try. Lovely guy though.
I don't know what to do. Should I just forget it and bury this part of me because it looks like I'm never going to find someone who is compatible the way I want? I've had a look at various sites but they all seem like 'hook-ups' and that generally isn't me, for my own safety primarily. I keep thinking, well I did it for xx amount of years, what's the difference now?
Yet the thought of turning back on what I really want is a bit depressing. I've tasted the excitement I felt and now want more but with someone I trust completely.
I just want a perspective on this. I know sex isn't the be all and end in a relationship but after spending a lot of time with my ex sexless because he didn't want to I know it can put a strain on a relationship. Would you settle for anyone who is sexually incompatible with you and who you think is a bit - well - boring in bed??