Is texting repeatedly EA?

[NeedABrew]

My ex keeps pestering me by text basically. It's a complicated set up and I have been on the verge of getting back together with him, but there have been a few red flags.

Basically 8 text messages in the space of an hour, ranging from 'where are you?', 'are you ignoring me?', 'you always do this', 'you don't care', 'come round tonight or never again', 'chance over', 'proved you don't care again'.

All while I've been in the bath with a glass of wine and Adele on. Glad my phone was on silent. Is this a sign of someone that cares or is it bordering abusive? I can't see the wood for the trees.

14 more texts? Someone is refusing to take "no" for an answer.

I don't have DC with him, but he works in the same building as me. I'm not worried about him.

Good that there are no DC and that you are not afraid. But he will continue to harass you as he is incapable of accepting that your relationship has ended and that you are no longer in his control. The fact that you work in the same building pretty much guarantees that you will have to deal with face-to-face attempts to get you back in line, and not just through an easily switched off phone.

Please have a plan of action ready for dealing with him when he tries to bug, wheedle, or intimidate you in or near your place of work. I suggest saying very firmly, in a low voice, with no smiling or saying "please" to soften the blow, something like : "I'm not interested". Repeat this like a broken record to anything he says (try it: it will work with any kind of statement he might make). And walk away.

Escalate with your superiors if the harassment continues in the workplace, or using workplace tools like your office e-mail address.

what Bossy said!

please, get another number or get the company to block his number!

I also echo what pumpkin says too....

and well done for not replying so far [hsmile]