Ever been so angry you are crying - sorry long rant!

[MrsBubsDeVere]

Well that is how i am right now.

We have a stable door at the back, and sometimes it goes out of line. Well, earlier i was trying to put it right as fil was here waiting to take us back to their house for dinner. (dh was at the bookies . I accidentally caught the lock and locked the window in an open position, i was searching high and low for the key, and dh searched for about oooooh 3 seconds. So, the top and bottom of it is, they have all gone for a boozy boxing day lunch leaving me on my ownsome. As he was going I turned to put the kettle on and knocked a glass into the sink, he started raising his voice and say 'go on then smash some more whilst you are at it', i had had enough at this point and shouted at him saying he could see my hands how could i have thrown em, he started f'ing and blinding so i've told him that if he's going to carry on swearing he better not bother coming home, so he said he would spend the day in the pub surprise surprise. As he was going i shut the door and as I did so dd2 was coming back in for a kiss and cuddle, the door caught her thumb, he then started blaming me accusing me of doing it on purpose.

I've found the key and sorted the window, and rung to let them know, his mother was off with me and also accused me of having too bad a temper and shutting the door on dd2 on purpose. HOW DARE THEY!

So I am sat here now seething and trying to think of something to do to calm me down before they come home.

Men can't live with em, can't kill em!

Merry Christmas eh? He spent all day moaning yesterday and then didn't eat all his dinner cos there wasn't enough gravy.

I'd just like to add, that although dd2 cried for a couple of minutes, she was fine and there wasn't even a mark.

Ooh I do get those angry/teary times as well - though tbh your dh was being a bit of a prick if you don't mind me saying so.

Thing to do is get away from the source of harrassment, different room, go out for a walk, whatever, and force yourself to think of lovely things.

Does he have any redeeming qualities? You make it sound as if that is fairly typical behaviour - and if so, I'm sorry for you because it sounds dreadful.

No constructive advice, just sympathy.

He does have a temper, especially when tired. This was all in front of the kids, he know how much i despise swearing in front of the kids. I've calmed down now, had a cuppa and discovered a box of luxury biscuits that i'd forgotten about.

he sounds like a righht charmer! my ex-p was able to induce tears of rage in me too. it is v hard to calm down as once you have got that shot of adrenalin throbbing through your veins it takes at least a coule of hours to get out your bloodstream. sorry no really practical suggestions. But you WILL calm down - it will take some time though - sympathy to you.

stick a good film on, get into a box of chocs and think "f~~~ em."

Crucially did you find the key?

Yes i did find the key thanks, ironically, it was on the shelf where dh had said he had looked.

Isn't it always?

Good to know it was all his fault. Hope you went out and locked them all out.

No i didn't go out, but he came home acting as if all was hunky dorey, but, by that time i'd had a bottle of wine and started on martini and wasn;t interested, i went to bed without talking to him.