Sorry to anyone who reads this but I'm nearly in tears. I really hate my sister and I'm pissed off at my brother too. I live near my mum who's 78 and alone. She is good for her age but needs looking after IYKWIM. That all falls on me. I realise this is because of the geography, sister and brother live 5-6 hours drive away each. But I always always feel I've got total responsibility of mum, they both do absolutely nothing. Brother has teenagers and so can't come up often but still only manages to visit for 3 days a year, never at Xmas, New Year etc. Also he's separated so has joint care of teenagers, so surely could visit when he's not got his kids.But what I'm most upset about is sister. She live about 5 hours away, all her kids are adults and she has about 6 weeks abroad a year, she only visits mum 3 days a year too and when she comes to see her she spends all the time in the shops and leaves mum alone in the house till evening so she may as well not bother. Never takes mum out when she's here for the 3 days, does what she wants and leaves mum alone, cos mum's too frail to walk around shops for 6 hours.........I really hate her. I'm the only one with pre schoolers and I'm also looking after mum with no support from sisiter or brother at all. Also no recognition that mum even needs any help. But they're both in late 40's, thaye're not idiots, they must know an old lady of 78 can't live alone without help. It's just always been as I'm nearest I do it all and they do nothing and I'm sick of it. I absolutely love my mum and I'm lucky to still have her and she never says but I think she knows sister and brother do nothing for her.
Why are they like this, esp. my sister who's the oldest(and she thinks the wisest...being the eldest?).Why is she so selfish, I'm the youngest and they don't think or care.
I hate them both, esp my sister, I said to DH last night I wish I was an only child then I wouldn't resent my sister and brother so much as I'd be doing all the work and not expecting any help, but knowing they are there and do nothing really upsets me. They are both crap, and it's not lack of money or lack of time off that prevents them visiting my mum it's just they're both so selfish, they don't think of her at all. They've never been up at Xmas or New Year for at least 10 years, my mum's not going to be here for ever.