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Aaaaaarrrggggh, just yelled at DP, what is it about xmas!!! (Rant)

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snowleopard · 24/12/2005 14:56

Think I have PMT and just lost it this morning when DP stayed in bed AGAIN snoozing merrily away while I woke up at 6 with DS. I didn't wake DP till later because a) he whinges on and on if he doesn't get enough sleep, which is OK in itself except it makes me mad and starts an argument - and b) because (as per Pruni's recent complaint) I can't stand always being the one to orchestrate everything - why can't he decide to get his own arse out of bed, why can't he announce that I will get a lie-in the next day and take responsibility for DS???

Told him as much in no uncertain ranting terms and get this - he DID NOT REALISE (sorry to shout) that DS had been awake!!! All this time - 6 months - he has thought DS had a lie-in at the weekend like us! Doh! I mean I knew he didn't know much about babies but... .

On the few occasions I have swallowed my pride and woken him up and told him to look after DS while I have a sleep, he's thought that was a rare occasion when DS popped out of bed early. So he's thought he has been doing me a huge favour by getting up early with DS on the few occasions it's been necessary!

(And yes I do believe him, he can be that dimwitted.)

I know, I know, we need to communicate better. One prob is that wanted a baby more than he did so now I tend to take on all the baby work even though I want to share it more. DP also works very hard during the week. And to be fair now the penny has dropped he's suggested we can have one lie-in each at the weekend.

But now I have had a blimming Xmas row with my lovely (usually) DP and feel so annoyed. Was really looking forward to having Xmas with just the 3 of us. Them my mum phoned with her inane nattering and I snapped at her too. Why does Xmas do this to me???

Rant over, no need to reply, unless you fancy making me feel better with your own tales of traditional Christmas rows. Ho hum.

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hercules · 24/12/2005 14:57

If I were your dp I would claim ignorance too if I knew you were going to get up. Sorry!

merrycompo · 24/12/2005 14:58

the trouble with xmas imo is there is too much expectation to have a great time, it invariably doesn't live up to this expectation so we all feel flat, fat and knackered after the event!

snowleopard · 24/12/2005 15:27

He is telling the truth, I know he is. He hasn't got a clue (well he has now).

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kama · 24/12/2005 15:29

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deckthehelswithboughsofhelsy · 24/12/2005 15:32

Ooh, he sounds like mine. DH tried to ignore our two dds when they came in at 7.30 this morning so I pulled the quilt off him, asked if he'd had any less sleep than me and when he said no I chucked his clothes at him and told him to go to Tesco. Determined not to make this an issue for Christmas, but it means I have to be tough otherwise as you say I end up organising everything and everyone.
Courage!
Happy Christmas.

festiveface · 24/12/2005 15:37

I have had words with my dh too. He has finished work and keeps going on about how pleased he is that he doesn't have to work and is currently lay down watching small soldiers. For me the work will not stop, in fact, clearing up after him is making far more work than ever and i just couldn't keep it in this morning grrrrrrrrrrrr

hercules · 24/12/2005 15:39

So why clear up after him then?

snowleopard · 24/12/2005 15:41

That's so true festiveface - there is more for me to do when DP is home, not less, because althouh he's not lazy (once he's awake!) and does do stuff, he makes so much more of a mess. Yes, more of a mess than me and a 6-month old put together.

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snowleopard · 24/12/2005 15:43

I clear up after mine because I want the place to look nice and I want the kitchen to be clear so I can cook and I want the bed to be made so DS can play on it, etc etc etc. He doesn't see the need or care about the mess so if he's going to do it, he has to be nagged. Then it is me orchestrating everything AGAIN. There's no winning this one - if you are the tidier one you just end up doing more.

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edodgy · 24/12/2005 15:44

row here too i did have a lie in today which was nice because i'd been bf my 4 week old round the clock till this week. However when i woke up the house was a huge mess washing up not done, washing not put away living room a mess, when i commented on this he looked dispairingly at me as though to say "well what do you expect i've been looking after 2 kids!" What does he think I have do to in the week when I stil have to tidy, wash up, do washing etc. GRR men!

hercules · 24/12/2005 15:44

Sorry but then surely the problem isnt his but yours. Dh is far more neat then me and is annoying if I want to chill out and he wants to clean.

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