Husband says I have an unattractive personality.

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Apparently, I talk too much, am neurotic, and highly strung, and this is the reason I don't have many friends.

I am so sad about this. I feel as though a big bubble has burst.

I do have friends, lots of friends, but not a close group of girl friends. I am nobody's best friend.

I know I am a bit manic, and I have always been a bit like this, but I am quite shy, and being chatty etc always got me over this. I have to listen a lot for my job, and think I am quite good at talking to people who are upset. The thing is, people only call me to meetup when they are low or want support.

This is generally ok, but if I want to go out for a drink etc, I may have to call half a dozen people before I even get a reply.

I am so upset. I dont know whether he is right, in which case I just don't know what to do, or whether he is being over critical (which he is, btw). I have been secretly crying in the bathroom all weekend, and have such a headache now, I have just phoned in sick fir the first time in 3 years.

catsareevil - that is really helpful, thank you. Lots to think about, but my headache is clearing, and I have stopped sobbing on the bathroom floor:)

Has he any idea of how much what he has said has upset you? And if so, how does he feel about that?
Badly done on his part.

I used that test: I got ENFJ which completely describes me and explains an awful lot about me too and how I react to things.

ESFJ sounds lovely, and explains why your friends have the realtionships they do with you: I suspect they think they are blessed to have you.

From what you have said....you have qualities...not flaws. You are chatty...great at giving support & obviously trusted otherwise your friends wouldn't call on you or advice. To hear your DH say this must have been hard....
I have the same situation...I have friends (mostly mummy-friends) but I'm not someone's best-friend...so I can understand how difficult that feels. But what you must look at is...-are you happy with you? I would tell your DH that you feel it was insensitive to say such things.