just so fucking hacked off and sick to death of myself

[Booooooyhoo]

argghhh!!

met a nice man a few months ago. nothing whirlwind or exceptionally romantic about it but it was nice having someone that i thought was interested. texting everyday, skypeing here and there all signs were that he was enjoying things the same as i was. planned a visit, went ahead, had a great time, he seemed to aswell, said he did anyway. still texting when i got home for about a week or so but all of a sudden, nothing. no message to say he was going to be busy or that he just wasn't as keen anymore. the last messages were all 'normal' as in no change in mood or anything. i'm so frigging pissed off with myself. why do i let myself bother to like people? what's the point of me even trying? i cant even trust my own judgement, i thought this guy was as keen as me. i sound like a real desperado and i fucking feel like one aswell but i'm not. wasn't looking for anyone when i met him, had resigned myself to the fact that i probably wouldn't meet anyone i liked. should have just ignored him. i dont want this to be my life. i cant do this again and again and make a dick out of myself. swear to god there need's to be some law passed that the right person has a secret neon sign that only you can see, save me all this fucking wasted energy.

rant over. sorry. just feeling sorry for myself.

[Booooooyhoo]

yes, onwards an upwards. i think i need to find a hobby to throw myself into and then i wont even notice the next time someone drops me like a hot brick. have to stop needing this so much. oh that comes across really pathetically but i do want to meet someone and be happy., i guess i just want it too much and it shows maybe? i dont know. either way whatever i'm doing isn't working so i need to stop.

[perfumedlife]

I agree shshiney, just law of averages, I dated a lot of men when single, bound to be a few crackers in amongst them.

I don't know if you're coming across as needy Boooooyhooo, you are just ready to meet someone to share your life with, nothing in wrong in that. If nothing else, it's more honest about what you want and it does get rid of the guys who are looking for casual stuff.

I met my dh shortly after the guy above and I was quite upfront that I wanted marriage and kids with the right guy, had been single a fair few years, dating became a bit boring really. I figured if he was not interested, it would be best all round to find out sooner. I think as long as you have a fairly happy life alone, there is nothing wrong with wanting to share it. The problem only really arises when you want a partner to take you away from your own life iykwim?

[Booooooyhoo]

"I think as long as you have a fairly happy life alone, there is nothing wrong with wanting to share it. The problem only really arises when you want a partner to take you away from your own life iykwim?"

yep that's where i'm at. i'm not happy on my own. probably hoping that things will suddenly be great if i met the right person. eugh, i hate reality. (life, not the Mner ) it's far easier living in my head.

[perfumedlife]

What specifically do you not like about your life right now Booooo? Is it being lonely? I know I was sometimes lonely, you can't spend all your time with friends, (although we did have fun, ended up drunk too often!) I know it's a cliche, but volounteering really got me out of my self, and prevented having too much time to brood.

A relationship ( a good one that is) should be the icing on the cake, not the whole cake. Do you like your job? Good friends?

[Pollykitten]

I am with a man who did that to women when he dated them - because I was on his mind he never committed and let down quite a few women and left them wondering what was wrong with the whole thing when it had all seemed fine. Trouble was, his mind was elsewhere...

[perfumedlife]

Yes, his mind was elsewhere, but not his cock.

[Booooooyhoo]

all of it.

[perfumedlife]

Talk to us then Boooooyhoo. Tell us what's so rubbish about it. Might be able to help. x

[Booooooyhoo]

sorry, had to go out to my mum's. not much point talking. it's all me that's the problem anyway. just need to face up to it and kick myself up the arse. i'm just being a whinge today. i go throw wee spells of this and then i'm fine again. just been a crappy week and i'm letting it get to me. thank you though.

[undercoverwizard]

The exact same thing happened to me earlier this year. Really keen, lovely messages/calls a couple of times a day. The last time I saw him was when I stayed over at his house one night (it wasn't the 1st time). He said I'll ring/text you and just never did. I got my own back though when he contacted me on Plenty of Fish about 2 months ago and I told him to P**s Off!! Ha ha ha ha!!