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Yup, its friday so a sex question

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LovelyLizzie · 14/10/2011 20:26

Joking aside, I need help!
I am in my mid forties, split with husband of 22 years over a year ago. He left for a younger woman. Have been dating this (younger) guy for two months, and tomorrow is shag night.
Seriously, I am terrified! Husband was a bit of a missionary position man and I'm not very experienced. Plus, having had four kids my tummy is stretched beyond belief and my boobs have long since gone south. Plus downstairs isn't what it once was..... :(
I have bought underwear. I have waxed. I have bought new sheets (why? like he cares?).
I think I look like a hogathian gin whore and I've forgotten how to do it :(
Help :(
Please be kind, I don't post here often.
Thank you

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WibblyBibble · 14/10/2011 21:47

What Gay40 said. The only men who notice 'flaws' are the ones who are crap (at both sex and life in general) anyway, so best to be rid of them.

dearprudence · 14/10/2011 21:54

Agree with everyone else up there ^ that he wants you because he likes you. Are you also thinking about the flaws and imperfections you might find on his body? Thought not.

Have fun. And do report back.

madonnawhore · 14/10/2011 22:03

Yes, let us know how you get on ;)

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LovelyLizzie · 14/10/2011 22:07

Thanks guys.
He just texted saying that he'd love to come over tomorrow but if I just want to meet for dinner that is fine.....
I WANT TO SHAG HIM
but so nervous.......
I hate it that he so obviously knows I'm nervous AAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH
Why didn't I shag more when I was young and beautiful :(

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Spuddybean · 14/10/2011 22:09

i must say lizzie that did make me larf - so maybe it was a bit funny!

a bloke said to me once sex is like pizza - even when it's bad it's good!

It wont go horribly wrong if you like each other then it cant fail to be good.

My DP were stranded at an airport once for hours and it seemed awful at the time but we look back at those 12 hours and remember laughing and having a brilliant time! sometimes if things aren't perfect it makes them more perfect.

My DP often whisper in each others ear in ikea (or some other inappropriate moment) and say remember when you fell of the bed that time...

Loobyloo1902 · 14/10/2011 23:42

Lucky you my lovely, have a super time and enjoy it! Hope he's an absolute stud muffin and you go to sleep in each other's arms xx

buzzskeleton · 15/10/2011 00:09

There's nothing wrong with being nervous or with him knowing you're nervous, if he's a nice guy. He is a nice guy, right?

He likes you and wants to do the horizontal mambo with you, so don't feel you have to pretend to be something you're not. If it's a bit fumbly, it'll get better with practice Grin.

BettySwalloxs · 15/10/2011 22:13

He will not want 2 keep his hands off you and will probably want to shag you there and then when he arrives. His urge to make you happy will be the only thing he will be conscious of. Hope you have lots me laughs and fun. Betty.

buzzskeleton · 15/10/2011 22:15

Oh it's actually shag night now. Hope you're having a good one, OP. Grin

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LovelyLizzie · 16/10/2011 12:25

Well......as promised, an update :)
I'd downed two glasses of pinot before he turned up, and then he brought wine, so I was fairly sloshed when we got down to it.
Despite my being clumsy, crap at sex and about as flexible as a wooden board, it was actually OK.......
He tried really hard, bless him. Kept telling me I was hot (I'm not) and that he loved my curves (ie flappy stretchmarked bits).

By the fourth or fifth time, I was actually getting quite into it... :D
Thanks for the support, all. Hope I can do the same for you one day.
Liz

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MangoMonster · 16/10/2011 12:28

Forth or fifth time! Woohoo! Sounds like you had lots of fun Wink

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LovelyLizzie · 16/10/2011 12:30

yeah, I can't actually walk this morning, but what the hell :o

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CurrySpice · 16/10/2011 12:31

:o that's great! Glad you had a good time :o

SolidGoldVampireBat · 16/10/2011 12:33

Woohoo, go girl! Five times? Bloody hell get that woman a bucket of ice to sit in.

HeadlessLamAAARRRGHHHH · 16/10/2011 12:46

Here's hoping "shag night" went ok for you OP!! GrinWink

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LovelyLizzie · 16/10/2011 12:48

Read a bit further down, Headless..... :o

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HeadlessLamAAARRRGHHHH · 16/10/2011 12:49

Really should refresh prior to posting Blush Grin

Glad you had a great time!

Lifeissweet · 16/10/2011 12:57

Holy Moly Op! Five times! Sounds like you got over those nerves pretty quickly. well there's no stopping you now. This is the fun bit. At it like rabbits at every available opportunity!
Enjoy it all. Wink

Lifeissweet · 16/10/2011 12:58

and I think you can safely believe that he thinks your hot and loves your curves if he's up for it that many times in one night.

Lifeissweet · 16/10/2011 12:59

you're hot Blush [embarrassed teacher emoticon]

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LovelyLizzie · 16/10/2011 13:20

I don't feel hot, Lifeissweet, but I at least feel like a human being again :)

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BettySwalloxs · 16/10/2011 14:45

Excellent, Lizzy!

Glad you had fun. Five times?? You must be walking like John Wayne today!!

Still, whatever your (nice) discomfort, spare a thought for lover boy. His nads will be like raisens and will will need to dip them in liquid nitrogen!

Here's to the next session...Wine

Betty.

BettySwalloxs · 16/10/2011 14:46

He will...

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LovelyLizzie · 17/10/2011 18:47

Hi Betty,
His nads are the least of his worries, he texted me earlier to say he had severe carpet burns on his knees, and has had to put plasters on them.....Blush

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HauntyMython · 17/10/2011 19:04

Blimey that was an update and a half! :o