Me and dp have nearly completed the purchase of our flat. Moving on 30th Jan. a week ago i told dp im so miserable and hate the way we are living and things have to change.
My dp is a very very selfish person and has been since i met him. He even admits it. He works shifts and up to 12 hours a day so we hardly ever see eachother. But when we have the opportunity to he would rather see his mates. If we make plans, he cancels them and blows me out. He went out sunday afternoon for a few hours to get away from our arguing but he never got home until 1am. He never rang or answered his phone.he eventually turned his phone off.
He said he was thinking about things and he decided to work things out cos he still loves me and wants to marry me (wedding booked for 12 aug).
anyway, monday no arguing at all. He went out AGAIN monday nite and said he would be back about 12.30 latest. he didnt get home till 5.30am and didnt even apologise even though i was worried sick.he then said he has changed his mind. He still loves me but doesn't want to be with me any more.
We had long chat and both feel that we love each other but cant live like this arguing all the time.we have decided to have a break from eachother until moving day to see how we feel at the end of it.We both feel exactly the same. We both want things to work out and move into the flat together but we don't want to do it if we are gunna end up hating each other. Im so scared that at the end of it he will realise he prefers to be on his own and he is scared that i will feel the same. has anyone been in this position before?