First post! Been with hubby for 14 years and are in a new country. He decided in August that he fancies another woman (but she's in a relationship with another woman!) that he works with because they have so much in common. I talked through it with him and he decided he wants more fun in life - mainly drinking, music and dancing. He thought we should split up because he doesn't love me and the kids anymore and that I should move home. Then he changes his mind about a month later saying he doesn't fancy the other woman and I agree that if he stops going to the pub with the woman I'll work through it with him. He also decided he is bipolar (we always knew he had depression). I've spent the last month finding out again and again that he's going out for drinks and emailing this other woman and I flip out each time, especially because he lies to me. He's just done it again today. He says he doesn't fancy her anymore but he begs me to let the pub sessions carry on. He breaks down completely if I say I've had enough and will just go home.
Any advice as this has got to be the most F*d up situation ever - I really do think he is bipolar after reading loads of books about it. We've always been happy before this. And he basically pretends our kids aren't there - totally indifferent and always wishes we'd never had any.