oh has various HW tasks which he does but he does them in a way which makes my life harder (eg folding and stacking clothes from airing cupboard in one big pile so that I have to then resort (and refold) into 5 smaller piles (one per person) to put into all the different cupboards). If I ask him to put them into different piles (explaining why this is easier fo rme) he complains that I am critisising everything he does and that he is only tryng to help. I've now tried doing it myself but he is gettign snappy about this saying that it is not up to me to decide who does each job. The same is happening with various other things. I can't work out what to do - am I a control freak for wanting it done "my way"? Do I just cope with letting him do things his way and put up with the extra work generated? (I know it sounds trivial but he has been away and I've realised how much easier life was just doing it all myself). If you disagree over how something shoudl be done then what normally happens?