Telling a white lie to get out of attending a wedding

[Onemorning]

My closest friend killed herself some years ago. Her fiance is a lovely man, and we kept in touch for a while. He and his next GF (who is more compatiable with him than my friend ever was) came to our wedding reception a few years ago.

My dilemma is this: they are getting married soon, and we have been invited to their wedding reception. I said yes, however the closer it gets the more I realise that I, while I am happy for them, I am sad about my friend and don't think I can face it.

Do you think it would be acceptable for me to tell a white lie and not attend, rather than turn up and possibly burst into tears? I don't want to tell them why I'm feeling sad because I don't want anything to spoil their day.

Hello all, I went and it was lovely. I was a bit choked when they did their first dance, but that happens to me at every wedding I go to! Big hugs with bride and groom, hopefully will see them both again soon. Thanks for letting me vent. x

Glad you were able to enjoy it - and that they had a great day.

Great .

Thanks for the update.

Well done for going. :)

well done :-)

I thought about you yesterday. I'm so glad you were able to enjoy yourself and you have the comfort of knowing that you've done your friend proud.

Grief never ends. Time doesn't heal but, eventually, we reach an accomodation with our loss and are able to mourn our loved ones as well as celebrating their lives.