ds's trousers "sexy"

[meandmypickle]

I feel a bit sick. Ds (5) had his new school trousers on and h said to him that his trousers looked "sexy"
Frstly what a totally wierd and inapproriate way to describe them and then of course ds kept repeating "sexy"

You basically called him a pervert. I think I would be angry too.

Why did your mind fill with thoughts like this instead of tutting and thinking, what a bloody stupid thing to say? There must be a reason some part of you saw something sinister.

I suppose only you were there when he said it, and heard the tone of voice and saw the expression on his face/ body language etc.

But just from the words you said your DH said, written down in black and white on this forum, if my DH had said it, I would have thought 'what a weird thing to say,' but I would never in a million years think he was harbouring inappropriate thoughts about my DS.

So the fact that you have been so badly affected by it tells me that there is a lot more to this than you're saying.

Don't know why you are crying as Hecate said, you essentially just called him a pedophiler, which you also implied on this thread, for using a word that is quite common slang and saying you were "uncomfortable." How did you expect him to react?

He admitted that it was inappropriate and you should have left it at saying you don't like it being used to describe the children. You continued questioning him as if he was guilty of being a pervert. Of course, he would be angry. I would be angry if I were him.

You should apologize for doubting him and for your over reaction as you have said yourself that he's never done anything to warrant him being a pervert or a pedophiler.

Meandmypickle - I hope you are ok and you don't feel we were too blunt with you. I get the feeling you're a bit fragile? Anyway. I hope that it all got sorted and you're ok and you're dealing with whatever it was that led you to such a horrified and scared reaction to a thoughtless and a bit dim choice of words.