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Follow head or heart?

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tiredpandabear · 11/10/2011 15:52

I'm in love with someone but already in a relationship and have 2 young kids. Financially i cannot support the kids by myself. Love my partner but not in love with him for quite some time now. Having couple counselling but so far it's not changed the way i feel at all. Do i stay for the kids sake or do i follow my heart and be happy with someone else even though it may not last?

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izzywhizzysfritenite · 11/10/2011 15:55

Have you been honest with your dp? Does he know you're in love with someone else? Is the OM free to love you in return and is he willing to support you and your dc?

HerScaryness · 11/10/2011 15:57

Sort yourself out first.

What is the point of you doing couple counselling if your heart is not in it and you are window shopping for a replacement.

You won't be happy with anyone until you work out who you are, and learn to love and appreciate yourself.

mumsamilitant · 11/10/2011 15:58

Yes, close one door before opening another.

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