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Relate-Has anyone used them?

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 21:48

I really dont know where dp and i are going at the moment.Next step for me is shall i go to Relate?

Can any Mums recommend them?

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handlemecarefully · 20/12/2005 21:49

Yep currently going. Proving fantastically helpful. Give them a whirl.

overdrafttopayforchristmas · 20/12/2005 21:56

yep second that we are going and they are fab and a great help xxx

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 22:00

dp would come with me,but could i also go alone?

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handlemecarefully · 20/12/2005 22:04

They would most likely want to do some joint sessions and some individual sessions actually....

overdrafttopayforchristmas · 20/12/2005 22:06

yeah you can go alone too

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 22:07

dp has already had Psycotherapy which hasnt helped one bit,so will have masses to talk about.

Determined to make decisions in New Year.

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 22:09

On another thread CRUSE were suggested to me for bereavement counselling.Looks like i need to do alot of talking!

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handlemecarefully · 20/12/2005 22:11

Notasheep - I didn't realise that you had been bereaved, I'm sorry

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 22:17

Two girlfriends in one year-so my outlook on life has really changed and i am looking far deeper in relationship with dp.

One of my girlfriends who died suggested i get a piece of A4 paper and do 2 columns,pros and cons,then things will be clearer,she may be right.

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handlemecarefully · 20/12/2005 22:20

Notasheep - 2 girlfriends!!! - I'm so sorry. Must have been a really sad and draining year for you.

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notasheep · 20/12/2005 22:25

Off to bed now with a head full of stuff to think about,dp is away overnight,so looking forward to bed alone.
Speak to you soon no doubt

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handlemecarefully · 20/12/2005 23:18

You'll be in bed now - sorry, had to disappear for a while to pack (going away early Thursday morning).

Good luck with everything....will say hello next time I see you on here.

Panic · 20/12/2005 23:51

Is it possible for seperated/ split for good couples to go to something like this? To improve the stae of your 'communication skills' iyswim i.e not with the view to getting back together, just improving things for the kids sake????

probably not - just a thought.

Gillian76 · 20/12/2005 23:52

My parents went. They thoroughly recommend them

handlemecarefully · 21/12/2005 08:46

It most definitely is possible to do that Panic and I'm sure would be a request met positively by Relate

Janos · 21/12/2005 12:54

notasheep - I went to the Scottish version of relate and they were certainly very careful. Mind you, I was 6 months pregnant at the time so I wonder what they thought!!

Panic - there is a service available that does those things. It's called mediation(XP and myself are currently going through it).

Janos · 21/12/2005 12:54

Ummm..that should have been helpful ,not careful. Sorry!

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notasheep · 21/12/2005 19:35

I will go and see Relate in January,I must as plan A is I am leaving dp

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