Is this desperate, sad or weird?

[RueDay]

Hello All,

Just joined and looking for some advice views on something that has happened.

Very briefly, I split with my ex earlier this year, he wanted to meet up afterwards, I decideded as it had been draining to have some space and suggested we meet in a few months for coffee as I wanted space.

He then said he was leaving the country for a year, had all the details etc and I belived him, realised I would miss him and said ok I will meet to say good bye as I will miss you.

Then found out it was a complete lie, he's not going anywhere, I was livid, felt completely manipulated.

Is this weird or desperate or just odd?.

I'm baffled

Tried to name change for this, as I have history with this person.

I have completely lost it with him and gone mental at him for lying.

Desperate and weird. And manipulative and controlling.

Bit concerned you had to even ask.

Dont meet up with him again.

Very manipulating but it worked!

He was hoping for a farewell shag.

The worst thing is yes it worked, but when I questioned it as he can lie, he sent pictures of his new house and visa details, so I thought ok must be true

Annoyed at myself, one of my girlfriends said it was romantic, I am less sure

Its manipulative.

What the hell? Very weird, and NOT romantic. Also a huge reason to never get back with him! So manipulative!

Very weird. How old is he?

in his 40's

Not romantic. You have had a lucky escape from this man!

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Argh, why is manipulative behaviour constantly seen as "romantic" by some people? Is your friend a Twilight fan by any chance?

You sound well shot of him. I wouldn't trust him as far as you can throw him from now on.

She meant well, she said o well he must really want you back.

He wants you back, yeah, to prove that he can. Not because he really loves and cares for you.

Fraid I think that is the case really.

He's a grown up then... very strange.
If he's lying about things like that, what else has he lied about?
Keep well clear.

Thanks I feel better now, I completely lost the plot when I found out, told him he was a sad desperate loser, etc etc etc etc really horrible stuff

It reminds me of an old friend if mine who tried to get her ex back by saying she was pg...she was in her teens at the time.
Making up stories like that, when you're a grown-up... weird!

Don't feel bad for the things you said, he brought it all on himself.

Delete/block his number.

Well done on telling him what a wanker he is . He's a freaky freaker.

It's not romantic and it's not because he loves you soooo much. Love isn't selfish, deceptive and freaky.

freaky freaker...love it!!!

You are well shot of him! The main thing I think you should take from this is that you made a very wise decision :)