Where do I go? What do I do?

[StranglyLittleKitten]

We're not married. He owns the house. He has the job and the money. We don't even have a joint account. My name is not on the deeds. I have no money to leave. He says he will not let me take DD if I go. I am "allowed" to go, but I can't take her. I can't provide for her anyway as he earns the money and owns the house. I can't leave without her. Where would we live if I left? I am penniless. I just don't know what to do. 250 miles away from any family.

Others must have been here before? There must be a way out?

Everything Attila said.

This man is coldly, calculatingly plotting your destruction.

Sounds melodramatic? it's not. there really ARE people THAT evil.

You need to use the 3weeks to the max, you can achieve a lot. Get your entitlements sorted, tell the benefits people what is going on, go see your Dr, your HV and get this logged. The financial stuff is tangible. Call WA, see if they can help you find a place to go, or landlord where the deposit can be paid in instalments.

You need to sit down when he's away and find some confidance, he's taken it all away from you. You need to feel strong again, even if it's just for a few hours and go to your local council offices and ask to speak to someone privatly.
My mum has worked as a cashier in our local council (essex) for many years and has seen countless woman turn up with their kids and suitcases in tears as they have had enough. She sits them in a small office and gets the homeless officer to talk to them and tell them how the council can get them a few nights in a B&B with their kids, then everyone from all the various organisations, council, womans welfare groups, job centre, CAB etc will find them a flat/house, put them on enough benefits to pay for everything etc and help you out emotionaly etc. These people are all there to help you but you need to take that first brave step.
My marriage sounds similar to your relationship, but my husband now and again listens to me and admits he's a bastard and I have joint access to our account.
If your to nervous to say it out loud to the cashier/receptionist send them an email requesting a meeting or write it down and give it to them.
Be strong hunni and in 6 months time you'll be smiling :O)