Am I doing causing this?

[Coconutmummy]

hello all, I am fairly new here and more of a lurker. I want your opinions on this matter. I consider myself fairly pretty, not Beyonce stunning, could compare with Alexandra Burke for instance. I am petite, have been an 8 pre baby and currently just managed to fit back into 14, 7 months post baby.
My query is I seem to get hit on quite regularly, virtually daily, this despite the fact that I wear my wedding band and always talk about my hubby and kids. I am beginning to think that I am doing something that sends a message that I am somehow available. Does this sound familiar and what could I be doing wrong. Is it normal?

I am in the middle east now

Ah. Then it's probably not you. I have encountered this widespread belief that "all Western women are available" before. It makes it hard to keep interactions professional and on point.

Coconut - when did you go out to the Middle East? Just wondering as on Saturday, you said you travelled in the South East of the U.K. for your work?

Sorry Coconut I missed that you'd already said you don't wear revealing clothes and you are in the Middle East. Surely in that case it is probably not about you personally but about their view of Western women as Pumpkin said.
You could ask on another board - say Employment Issues or Longhaul Travel about whether anyone has any experience of working in that area as a woman with a husband not in the country, and whether there's anything you could do differently that might help. (Perhaps you could just make out your husband is there with you if people ask.)

Do you work in an area where, when people are working away from home, there is a culture (for some) to stray? I think it's quite disrespectful to you that you keep being asked whether you're happily married. I can't imagine asking my Financial Adviser if they were happily married- it's none of my business.

So you are meeting 10 people a day, 4 days a week, and two or three out of approximately 40 people are asking you for social interaction.
That suggests to me a) that it reflects a reasonably standard percentage of people who have inappropriate boundaries/a poor attitude to women (ie the vast majority of your professional contacts are not waving their cocks at you) and b) you need to get over yourself a bit. I think there's a part of you going 'Oh wow look how irrestistible I am!'.

Also, in the Middle East, even though there are plenty of women in business/workplace, the cultural differences can affect the interaction between the sexes, and a subtle difference in friendliness (even though professional) could be misconstrued. As SGB there will always be those with inappropriate boundaries and, in the Middle East, those with a negative idea of Western women.

I work for a UK company, mainly travel in the south east and London, from Sussex to Kent and Hampshire. I am doing a week's work in the middle east, from the 02nd to the 10th. I am currently waiting for my flight out back to the UK.

Thanks for all your replies.

Solidgoldbrass you seem determined to make this something else. What would be the point of doing as you suggest. My OP states the purporse of this thread. I was wondering wether other married women were finding this , or wether I was drawing all this attention to myself.

I do not routinely wear low cut dresses. I have huge boobs and in my opinion, that type of top does not wear well.

I did not know about this western women opinion around here, that is very useful information. As I will be coming here monthly ongoing. I got frustrated on the day I posted this OP, which is why I asked wether this is normal.
I will take all your comments on board.
Thanks for taking time out to reply

It all sounds pretty normal to me.

Just decline.

Thanks Edith, I was just wondering if people thought this normal. This did nit happen to me when I was single and available. Then, I would be lucky to get an offer in a month.

You sound like my friend.
She is drop dead gorgeous and men literally turn into dribbling wrecks in her presence, but she is totally unaware of her affect on them, which I think adds to her appeal.
She really doesn't think she's anything special but she actually turns heads, she is so strikingly attractive.
She has just learnt to laugh it off when she is hit on (regularly) and she has never once cheated on her husband in 15 odd years of marriage.
I would like to hate her, but she is one of my oldest dearest friends and I love her to bits.