Is it over?

[eToTheiPi]

have just sent H to the spare room. I can't take any more hassle and bitterness. We have 2 dd's nearly 5 and 11 months. I'm sick and tired of doing everything. H has a promotion so I could give up work (with help from quite a substantial inheritance of mine), we got a cleaner as I can do an hour's tutoring for the same money.

He is never happy. Everything is inconvenient to him, swimming lessons for the eldest so he has to come home on time once a week. ( I could manage with the 11 month old at the same time). The tutoring has to be at the weekend now so inconveniences him. Last Sat I tutored then still had to get the girls dressed, fed, teeth cleaned etc before dancing lessons for dd1.

We really need work doing on the house so as we have a builder coming tomorrow, I asked H to sort out the bedroom (a mess) and I would do the kitchen. I also suggested his parents could maybe help so I could tutor this weekend. H wants to fetch various furniture etc. It's led to an almighty row. Apparently I have taken on too much, (1 hrs tutoring a week) and I let rip about being, to all intents and purposes, a single Mum. He slept in the spare room till dd2 slept through the night (6 months) and still insisted on 1 lie in each at the
weekend.

Trying not to drip feed but I don't like H much any more. I'm tired of walking on eggshells with him, that's what we had to do with my Dad due to stresses at work and that's not what I want for my dd's. What do I do now?

Thanks izzy , I've said if he shares what's happened at work I can sympathise and a problem shared etc... Have to say my faith in MN has been restored. I'm more of a lurker than a poster unless I can help.

Perhaps now you may realise it is good to have input in a thread .... it may just be your input that makes the difference to a post that day. It may also get you knowing more about other MNrs too.

And for those who cant sleep for whatever reason it may also give them something to read too.

Its taught me something tonight, thats for sure.

Oh, I am glad to hear that. Y'know, I've been married to DH for just over ten years, and there've been a lot of "one steps at a time". He is showing some improvement.

Doing something for yourself is so important. I hope you can continue with your tutoring without more aggravation, too. And at some point give him the chance to be sole parent for a whole day!

Amazing mathematics, I agree. I tell my classes it's like a mathematical poem. (It doesn't often appear on the syllabus, but I like to squeeze it in wherever possible with a tenuous connection because I think it's brilliant! )