What to do with a husband who is about to cheat?

[confusedperson]

I am a married with two kids, 3 and 1yo. Relationship in our marriage has always been so-so, but we managed it so far. Our sex life was 2-3 times a week, until recently, when we did not have sex for about a month, firstly I was too tired, then he was away for 2 weeks, then I rejected him because again of two weeks managing kids on my own. The next date after rejection he registered with a dating agency. Obviously, he doesn't know that I know... Since then, we revived our sex life, even quite intensively, but he is still on the dating website emailing other woman for casual relationships. He does not have a clue that I know. What do I do now???
(this is the first time in our 5 year relationship)

Actually he is putting on a stake his home and his kids, it seems so unreasonable to me. If I confront him, he might promise and behave well, but who will guarantee that this will not happen in the future again?

I think your being a child if he's about to cheat he clearly wants a divorce if ifs not a good time to take him for everything then zip it gather there evidence then get rid

Does every little step to infidelity, even if not infidelity itself, have to equal a divorce?

If he's new to these sites, he'll be on a high. If you ask whether he's happy, he'll probably be able to truthfully say yes.

It might be time to bring in the notion of a "friend's" DH who went down the same track and ended up in a bedsit. You could say your friend installed software on his laptop to track every single keystroke - she was telling you all about it. Oh and it got through the password, too.

ImperialBlether, ha ha, that's actually funny. I do have one friend who just split up, partially due to her partner's infidelity. I will try to mention it to him on occasion.
When I check husband's dating profile, I can see he is/was desperate - he is in his 30ies and been emailing to woman in 50ies! Mainly giving his email and asking for a picture. He does not log in every day, but for about 6-7 times in the past 3 weeks. Hasn't actually exchanged any numbers or pics. His month's free membership expires in a week, I wonder whether I should wait and see if he will renew it... I am so not ready for this, guys.... (I guess no one's ready)
N.B. Maybe because we have been through lots of health issues in the past couple of years, I just refuse to think of it as life-death situation. Health is much more important thing to worry about.

I'm an internet dater and if I get any married men contact me, I play what I call the "married man game" and I tell them that I recognise them or that I know their wives. It's horrible that they do it, but I have hope that they get a fright and realise what they have to lose. If it's any help, when I challenge them, some of them tell me that its an outlet for boredom and would never actually meet anyone - just a different way of flirting I guess. Not right and I would be devasted but they are not all meeting up for NSA sex.

Infidelity doesn't have to equal divorce but a lot of people find it impossible to continue in a relationship with someone who has broken their trust and who has engaged in sexual activity with others.

If you are the type to place ALL of your trust in your partner, swear blind to all and sundry that your beloved would never cheat on you and then discover that they've been having it off with another, at the very least you will feel like 'tit of the year' - usually compounded by finding that you're the last to know about the trusted one's duplicity.

The resulting wound to the innocent party's ego may never heal; the relationship may become a battleground of mistrust and suspicion, words may be said that can never be rescinded, and divorce/separation may be the only viable option.

If you love your h and want to continue in your marriage, you're best advised to talk to him about what he's doing - or let him know that if you found out that he was putting himself about with a view to meeting/shagging other women, he'd be out on his ear.

You can do the latter by inventing a friend that's just discovered her h has registered himself on a dating site and add suitable commentary i.e 'what a sad git he is', 'what a pathetic excuse for a man she married', 'why would any man risk their wife/dc/home an illicit shag' blah blah to get your views across to him. Hopefully, he'll think again and that'll be the end of it.

You're absolutely right - infidelity is not a life-death situation.

I suggest you carry on as you have been doing and embellish your friend's h's inifidelity to reflect your own views of how others, including yourself, are viewing his despicable behaviour and also ask your h how he'd feel if you cheated on him.

There's no harm in waiting a week to see if he signs up to membership of whatever site he's registered on. My guess is he won't, but he may join another or one of the free sites at some future date.

I like playing long games; forewarned is forearmed and my guess is you'll be able to outwit him if you've got access to his internet activities.

Come back if you need ideas on that score

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy, thanks for your advice. I will definitely use the example of a friend, but have to wait until tonight - hopefully there will be a chance to bring up the topic.
He is not the type I would swear by, and I thought about divorce on couple of other occasions (not related with infidelity), but I am probably the old-type person who thinks no one is perfect, and people make mistakes (hopefully learn from them).