waxing :(

[eandz]

Hello Ladies, I should have name changed.

All morning I've been in a bit of a mood. It all started last week when I was having my usual brazillian wax and I noticed they have a service for men too. I called DH to book him in and he refused to go saying that it's uncomfortable with the idea of someone of any gender covering his intimate parts in hot wax and ripping it off. He won't mind if I do it though.

During my pregnancy a few years ago, I did beg my DH to have a wax and he did comply, rightly or wrongly, I was feeling like my body was going through too many things for my DH to understand and the expectation of delivery just felt too high, while the act was grossly under appreciated. I don't know how or why I justified his being waxed as a good compromise, but the result made me insanely happy. Those six weeks were fantasmic. At the appointment he did make me promise that it was a one off, and I did have to go with him and hold his hand.

The problem is, I have such an aversion to body hair I cannot wax him. He won't be waxed by a professional, but does complain if I'm not pruned to perfection regularly.

While reading another thread, I realized how much I would like to tap a nice, firm and hairless male butt--perhaps even give it a squeeze but I don't really find myself being able to find a male stripper/male prostitute and paying to do it. I just couldn't do it, I wouldn't be comfortable for anyone to ever do that to me without feeling demeaned, except my own DH. I would very comfortably be able to sqeeze his butt.

I know my DH and I need to have a conversation about this since it is bothering me enough to actually post about it, but I need to find a way to come to some sort of reasonable compromise.

I will not stop being waxed because I find my own amount of hairiness unappealing, and I don't think him shaving would be good because the stubble is uncomfortable--although he does this to make me happy.

Thank you for reading, and thank you for any help you do offer. :)

FUCKIGN HELL
you really need to see someone about this

i think you and your H need a hobby tbh

Not sure if I should be laughing, I mean it IS a joke, right?!

Thinking about it, yes of course it is

That noise you hear is the scraping of the barrel, readers.

Some days I really am amazed on here!

Just when you think its the same old, same old, along comes something spectactular.

Leave the poor man be. He doesnt need to compromise.

Some counselling would be helpful for your body hair issues.
How old is your H?

I hate to be the one to tell you this but he will get much, much hairier as he gets older, in very random places too, my DH has a large patch of hair at and above the bottom of his spine, I'd never ask him to get rid of it, just as he wouldn't ask me to to have my unbelievably hairy neck attended to.

Don't you have more important things to worry about?

This is surely a joke. Why did you marry a hairy arsed man if you dont like hairy arses?

OMG. I hope this isn't serious.

I do very much understand that this thread is on the other side of crazy. I do.

"I do very much understand that this thread is on the other side of really shit trolling. I do."

There you go, fixed it for you.

FFS OP you've made my day.

Any suggestion to DH of him waxing would result in and [anger] by him.

Good luck with the prostitute idea though, it's def the solution to your knotty problem.

Does it interfere with your sex life? If it's bothering you that much you need to get to the root of it, I think. A phobia, rather than a dislike of something normal like body hair isn't normal.

You don't have the right to insist - but then neither does he, and he does, that's probably your most immediate problem tbh.

Sounds more like a control issue on your part than simply an aversion to his hairyness?

If it's the waxing per se he's reluctant to do, I can see where he's coming from... we're pretty stretchy down there...

Veet is fine, just don't leave it on more than 5-10 minutes depending on how sensitive his skin is.

There you go. A serious answer :-)

No op isn't trolling, but I think she's attaching too much importance to soething that isn't, in the scheme of things.

Where does it say OP's H expects her to be waxed? I can't see it. If he does expect it but won't do it for her that's pretty shit. But if he just has no desire to have his body hair ripped out with hot wax by a stranger then he's perfectly within his rights. OP are you seriously saying you desire to squeeze a smooth male bum so much you have considered paying a stripper? Goodness.

Yes, you are quite odd by the way. I do recognise your posting name though so I assume a regular oddball, not a troll :)

'complains if I'm not pruned to perfection regularly' in the op

I love Bumsnet Mumsnet

the only man i know of that has had a full wax down below, only had it done once and he then got an ingrowing hair very close to his anus and it got infected and he had to have an op to sort it out, he spent weeks walking like he'd lost his horse, and it was very painful, so i would say lay off your hubby and buy him a tube of veet!!

In that case he's a dick.

My concern is what happens when your dc reach puberty?

If they've only seen adults who have no pubic hair, will they think they're abnormal? Will you be introducing them to the (dubious) delights of waxing as soon as their first sparse pubic hairs appear?

Will they develop body dysmorphic disorders such as the one you have?

I notice that in another thread you've mentioned you and dh having met at a young age, virgins until you married, his 'scrawny arse', submitting him to waxing while you were pg as some form of pay-off for you going through labour, etc.

It does appear that you've got some 'ishoos' my dear, and I hope that you'll get take steps to get them sorted before you invest in lotions, potions, and creams to depilate your dh's nether and other regions.

You wouldnt like my DH he is a self confessed hairy arsed builder. Hairy chest - even has a hairy back. I call him my 15 tog man. Great for cold winter nights but a bit much in a heatwave and could do with a smooth man for summer months but dont tell him.

at 'DH's nether and other regions'.

MAD

I agree with AnneteProfit - get a hobby.

Could I suggest:

www.toptopiary.co.uk/catalog/index.php?cPath=60

" but does complain if I'm not pruned to perfection regularly. "

He's a fucking knob then.