HELP me explain this

[MyXmasPuddingSixpenceworth]

ok. now i am a 'checker'. phone records, pockets, etc etc. so i tried to log onto dh email account tonight, to find invalid password. instant alarm bells, so i typed in his user name and clicked forgot password, confirmed his personal info and was issued a new password, which i then changed to what his password used to be, before he changed it for whatever reason. then i went thru his email - found nothing incriminating.

but.

what do i do when he tries to log onto his email?

Claim all innocence.

Sorry but LOL! You are worse than me!!! Sorry I can't help, except from saying perhaps your DH will think it has been some sort of technical error if the password is back at his old password? [hopeful emoticon]

Well I suppose you hope that he thinks his password change didn't go through for whatever reason.
I'm guessing he doesn't know you do all this?

agree I would play innocent and delete the reset password email from his account.

However, also agree with beety - why did you do it?

I do that too. I do it because I don't trust him

Try to put it back?

Come on we're dying to know.

eeeeeeek....

sorry that wasn't very helpful...
don't try to explain it
start perfecting your look of innocence
eeeeeek again

when you gave his details after clicking 'forgot password' did it not just give you the current one?

oh dear,

no, he doesn't know i do this!

well, to cut a long story short;

1. before we married he went to my then best friends place (drunk) and tried it on with her, saying it was a 'last fling' - he swore blind she was making it up to split us up!

2. i once got a phone call from a woman who ran a dating agency claiming he had called for a 'friend' for the evening - she was very hostile, claiming it was NOT that sort of an organisation. He claimed it was his mates messing about, because why would he be so stupid as to try to arrange that and then give them his home telephone number.

3. he went out to london for the night, (we lived down south at the time) and didnt come home, he claimed he had got drunk and slept in the car, however, when the bank statement came thru there was a withdrawl in derby, so i challenged him and he said he had gone up there with another bloke - whose details he couldnt give me. i then found a telephone number in his pocket, rang it and a young girl called sarah answered, who told me he had met her in a club and tried to persuade her to go to a hotel with him. she said she declined. he said she was lying about him coming onto her.

4. he used to regularly go out drinking and stay out all night, claiming to have slept in the car.

every incident he has an explanation for that could be true - no absolute proof either way and no evidence. but i have no trust in him!!!

I think he's found out you've been checking on him so that's why he changed the password.

I'd claim all innocence if I were you - reckon you don't have a scooby what he's on about!

no glittery - it reset the password to this long mixed digit and letter thing and gave me the option to change it.

MXPS sorry, that all sounds like quite a stresser.
In all seriousness, I would feign innocence. Computers do f**k up this sort of thing, ie you think it's gone through and it hasn't, or it reverts for no apparent reason. Well I know it's probably human error but it seems like it's the computer...
Glad you didn't find anything.

Well, he didn't say anything, and he hasn't changed it again! So he probably did assume it was a computer error! (or he doesn't want to challenge me!)

Ta Pruni, it is a bit of a stresser, but I made my choice (staying) so what happens from that point on, well, I can blame myself! (reserving the right to moan from time to time, of course!!)