I sent DH an email this morning explaining he had upset me,now I feel like a twat. I have over reacted haven't I :(

[Twattingcuntybollocks]

I have name changed for this thread (although I prefer this name so might keep it )

The DD's have been beasts this morning, DH was in a foul mood before work and had a go at me as there were no yogurts left for him to take to work.

I seethed silently until he left then sent him an email explaining that I was upset at the way he spoke to me this morning.

This is the email C&P;

Hiya Babe,

I am sorry to send you this while you are at work but I need to get it off my chest.

I was very upset at the way you spoke to me this morning over a yogurt of all things. I will go and get you some more later today if I get a chance.

I am struggling with the kids right now and you being angry with me over a yogurt does not help. The behavior of the girls is affecting my mental health right now and I am trying my hardest to stay on an even keel. On top of that not feeling well for the last few weeks has been hard for me.

I understand that you were annoyed at the way the girls were behaving this morning, it is not easy when they are mis-behaving but I would appreciate it if you wouldn't take it out on me as I do not take it out on you when I have had a full day of them mis-behaving with me.

I love you lots.

xxxx

I have completely lost the plot haven't I. He hasn't replied yet I don't know if he will

FWIW, DH and I very, very rarely argue (just a couple of times in the 14 years we have been together) Our DD's are hard work right now (their ages and lack of a routine I think) We have introduced a routine and set some boundaries and they are behaving so much better already.

I keep swinging from well DH is a grown man if he wants yogurts then he needs to buy some more when he has finished them (I don't eat yogurts) to well he does work hard (out of the home and at home he gets stuck in with housework, childcare and cooking as much as I do) so I could walk to the shop to get him more. I honestly didn't realize he had run out, I suspect that DD1 may have helped herself to one instead of one of the ones we have in for both of the DD's.

Urgh I feel like such a prat.

You are right, DH isn't normally like this at all. Both DH and I have our moments, I tend to apologise pretty much straight away without him having to prompt me for it IYSWIM. I sometimes just need half an hour to cool myself down.
DH has on occasion but tends to be able to carry on as normal after he has be rude and horrible and he expects me to be able to do the same. I am not like that if someone has upset me I cannot just move on without at least talking about it. He can and it infuriates me.

at "oi cunthead"! Definitely the way to go

Good email.

Follow up with,

"Hi Babe,

could you pick up some yoghurts on your way home, we seem to be out of them,

xxx"

oh god.. is this how marrriage partners talk to each other? It is SO nice! My version would be to tell him to grow up! I need a wife like you!!!

MmeLindor
Luckily my neighbour text to ask if I needed anything from the shops after I had had a good old rant to her about him this morning, so she has bought some for him.

He is very lucky I am a fantastic wife Good job I love him isn't it.

I think I'd be tempted to buy a ridiculous amount of yoghurts, fill the fridge with them so that is all you could see, then when he got home swoop open the fridge door and say "There are your fucking yoghurts darling"

You didn't overreact, but I hope you can both laugh at it later :)

I like MmeLindors follow up email best though

Ha. Headfirst.

Or just send him this pic <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.ch/imgres?q=fridge+full+yogurts&hl=de&sa=X&nord=1&biw=1600&bih=785&tbm=isch&prmd=imvnsfd&tbnid=JFszIWqsnEHglM:&imgrefurl=coffeeina.blogspot.com/2010/10/what-to-do-with-fridge-full-of-yoghurt.html&docid=YcOISVgN6wdbgM&w=720&h=540&ei=OV-ETrymMoyA-wbnjoEq&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=365&vpy=149&dur=5072&hovh=194&hovw=259&tx=142&ty=78&page=1&tbnh=134&tbnw=179&start=0&ndsp=32&ved=1t:429,r:1,s:0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">"Will that do you?"

You will get an apology ive no doubt... that was a very nice email considering! I even think he may pick up some yoghurts as a peace offering!

You do sound very nice and reasonable OP, I hope he realises how lucky he is to have you!

Also, this thread is making me crave yoghurt...

That picture is fab, I might actually email it to him with a big smiley face

I did have a fleeting thought of buying lots and lots of yogurts and filling the fridge with them.

MmeLindors comment reminded me of conversation I had with DP last night.

He's been "commenting" that the freezer needs defrosting for a couple of weeks now. I said, well why don't you do it then.

His swerves were:

When I do anything it never gets noticed so I don't bother
You would only tell me that I'm making a mess on your kitchen floor
Finally, you never asked me to!

Popped my head round bedroom door this morning and said in a very sing songy sweet voice of an angle, Up you get sleepy head, you've got a freezer to clean.

Plonker!

It is a bit odd that you waited for him to eave then sent this email. Hardly losing the plot though! Maybe you could both improve on your commication skills

Fuck. Leave, communication :)

You did very well to wait til he'd left I think! In my house I think that sort of thing would have led to a row where I yelled at him for being such a baby over his yoghurts and making my job with the DC harder than it needs to be. Staying calm and telling him afterwards is a much better idea.

And the email is very reasonable.

Normality is resumed in the Twatting household. He apologized as soon as he walked in the door. He said he had been a bit stressed lately although he admits that is not an excuse.

I thanked him and told him that if there is a next time my email wont be as nice

Thanks everyone