I posted yesterday but was told this may be a better place to post. I feel so upset and need some support from others with a mother who does not treat them with respect. Basically I could not give my mother a lift somewhere yesterday because I had made arrangements to see a friend who had just had a baby so she put the phone down on me. She phoned me last night but my mobile was upstairs and she didn't try the house phone. I did not see the missed call until late at night. I rang her back today and received abuse about not being available to take her somewhere and how it would not have hurt me I tried to explain that we had already made arrangements, I am an adult with my own life. She shouted at me told me I was mental and she wishes she never had me. In reality I am just not the person she wants me to be (have my own opinions and life) and she cannot stand this. She is such a negative person who responds to my problems with 'what about me, my situation is worse' etc. When she said she wishes she never had me I told her I did not want to see her again and put the phone down to her ranting and swearing. She is currently texting my phone with nastiness which I have not responded to. Can anyone else relate to this? How do I stop myself from believing all the mean things she thinks about me?